Make sure the guy you are giving it up to is someone who you have a real bonding with--the two of you are really a pair. The worst thing you can do is to just have sex to find out what this experience everyone talks so much about is. People who look back fondly on their first experience usually had it with someone they love--but love is such a weird and confusing feeling it may not be your best yardstick. You could easily fool yourself into thinking you are in love, or you could wind up waiting too long looking for that perfect, storybook love that you'll either cheapen the experience or make it into something greater than it is and wind up disappointed.
Find someone who you respect and respects you. Some time together would be a good idea too. If you have both of those, you probably have some real love for each other too. If you two haven't built up respect for each other though, you don't really know whether you have love or if it is an illusion.
And finally, for when the waiting is done--don't worry about how it, you, or he was when it happens. If you two are a pair, you have a lot of time to learn about each other and what makes you and your partner feel good. (Which is another reason to do this with a boy who respects you--you know there will be a second and a third time, and you two will get it right. No guarantee of either of those (doing it again or trying to get it right) without respect.What your advice can you give me for virgins on their first time.?
wait...don't loose it to some as s hole.
wait until you get married. it will make it more special.
iwait until the right man comes around.
Don't do it! That's the best you can give anyone. It may not be what either of you want to hear but I promise you, you will feel so much better about it later in life. I know personally I regret loosing it before being married. I look back on it now and I wish that myself and my finace we're virgins when we met because then when you're married you share something special. Plus your both pure and clean! Sex isn't EVERYTHING everyone makes it to be. It's not the greatest thing in the world and honestly if you're not with someone who is as concerned with you enjoying it as he is with himself then you're better off without. I'm not telling you not to do it. It's the best advise you can give anyone but If you do decide to have sex MAKE SURE I can't express it enough you wear protection even if you're on birth control. If you have sex with someone who has had sex with someone else and that someone else has sex with a different person it could all lead to a disease. BE CAREFUL. Make sure it's right and don't let anyone pressure you into it. I hope that helps
Come to my pre-lost-virginity class in NJ...The classes are held 2 times a week or you can make an appointment for me to come see you for a private session....good luck!!!
honestly , the most important thing is to wait until its with someone you really love and want to be with. i lost my virginity when i was 15 with a guy i didnt even like and i regret it already, and im only 18 right now. i really wish i had of waited ! hope i helped :]
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