hey. i need to ask you about the problems you encounter about drug addiction... and the advices people/friends gave you.
** sort of like those problem/advice page on the magazines..
thank you.Your problem %26amp; advice given to you about drug addiction?
Well, I have to say peoples advice never held any sway to get me to quit using drugs and alcohol. I totally wanted their advice when things went bad for me but never took it (I think I just liked the attention), I always thought I was smarter than them. When I was up and having a good time I resented their advice and wanted them to leave me alone.
Understand this coming from me, a drug addict who knows - addicts are manipulators, they are selfish, spineless, romantic, narcissistic liars who love people but not near as much as they love feeling good. We come in all shapes and sizes with all sorts of different addictions. We quit when we get good and ready and only when we can face the truth and begin to tell the truth, no matter what. No person ever told me that, I had to find it out on my own.
Advice: ';fake it til you make it'; (just plain stupid and vague), ';prayer and God can take away your cravings and heal you'; (partially true but not like magic, it's a trial), ';Keep coming to AA/NA'; meetings (makes your addiction the center focus of your life), ';talk to someone'; (I never listen), ';Get married to someone who will keep you straight'; (you'll make them miserable).
Addiction is a mindset not at all easily overcome, I'm still trying to beat it everyday. Even though I have not used illegal drugs in 20 years and stopped drinking many years ago I have had trouble with any prescription I ever took that altered my normal state, even over the counter stuff. I am still married after 20 years but my personality causes much emotional pain to those I love. I am working on it.
Hope that answers your question. Advice is good - just not real effective.
Monday, August 23, 2010
What advice do you have for a rather spoiled young lady as she enters a new phase of her life?
I am 16 and my daddy, against my will, is sending me to a boarding school that he hopes will ';adjust my attitude';. For instance, they have uniforms, ROTC and no boys!.
I will even be having a roommate. I have never even shared a room before except with my older sister when I was really little. How can a rather spoiled young lady, such as myself, acclimate to having a roommate? suppose she is not spoiled? suppose she is a thug? suppose she is a junkie? suppose she is a lesbian? How do come up with rules and stuff if we disagree about something? with my older brother and older sister I just cry and SCREAM to get my way (well some of the time), but these will be total strangers.
Thank you and good day,What advice do you have for a rather spoiled young lady as she enters a new phase of her life?
Ok, Lori, here's my advice from what I know about dorms:
~Bring stuff like a folding hamper and transportable shower caddy. That way, you can hide your stuff and store it in compact spaces.
~Buy a small safe for really valuable stuf so your roomate can't get her paws near it.
~Don't be the boss. Set rules together. And don't claim all the biggest and best stuff. Split things equally (well, as equally as possible!)
~More than likely, your roommate will not be spoiled. So, you have to accept that. ';Lindsay, I am spoiled. I hope to make it so that my spoiledness doesn't interfere with you.'; And don't throw an extreme number of temper tantrums because you will get in trouble.
~If she is a thug, be careful. You need real proof. And if you find a lead, report it to your Headmaster or person in charge of that. But do it ANONYMOUSLY! Trust me, you can't identify yourself.
~If she is a junkie, you also have to report her, but try to get good evidence, like people frequenting your room with large amounts of cash and leaving with bags, her being half out of it whenever, and other obvious signs. You know what to do.
~Lesbian. Hmm. Tight one. I guess you just have to know for certain, and then explain in a polite way. ';Lindsay, I understand that we have different sexual orientations. But let's not involve that in our friendship. You have yours and I have mine. So let's leave it at that. Ok?';
~Basically, just treat your roommate like you want her to treat you.
And most likely, honestly, you'll probably get some really nice girl who you'll get along with really well.
And sorry for naming her Lindsay, just making an example.
7 days. Aah! I've been counting down on my facebook the number of days (literally, my status is ';counting down to my trip (2 days) and till Lori leaves (7)';) and everyone wants to know who you are! I'm going to miss you, so we'll email and you'll give me your facebook name.
Good luck! I'm bringing my phone and computer with me, so I'll check for your question of the day every day!
Please do email.
In case this is it for us on here, goodbye Lori. Thank you and many good days.
Oh, and PS: I was reading the answers to Em's question about being bored. when I hit yours, I saw you say something about the girl who looked just like me, and how you thought it was me and all. So I started looking. That was FREAKY! She looked so much like me!! But we obviously have nothing in common because I'm not going to tell someone to do that.
Talk to you soon! Let me know if you need my email address again!
//\\//\\//\\//What advice do you have for a rather spoiled young lady as she enters a new phase of her life?
You will learn to deal with the real problems of life instead of having someone do it for you. I guarantee you that you will gain some self respect and even make some good friends. Quit worrying so much about your roommate, most people are pretty normal. Well, except for you.
Sometimes having a roommate can be a good thing. It teaches you how to interact and make friends. You can also learn some new tricks for getting your way with daddy. Sounds like the old tricks aren't working anymore. Good luck!
Lori, change and adaptation to those changes, is all part of growing up.Having a roommate is certainly going to be a challenge.Be prepared to share a space with a stranger who may or may not be of your liking.Be prepared to make compromises in order for this to work out.I'm sure there will be rules for students to follow while in residency.so some choices will be made for you.If you work at it, you may find your roommate will become a friend for life.Keep in mind it is the small things that irritate in a relationship (whether it is friends, acquaintances or couples).Keep bathroom spaces clean, do not use someone else's property without permission and don't play your country music too loud when your roommate is studying. (just kidding about the country musicLori I don't know what music you like.It basically comes down to respecting your roommates space and property and being willing to compromise.As for rules that will all get sorted out when you meet your roommate.Some things you will learn through trial and error.PLEASE try not let the visual of your roommate destroy a potential friendship before you even say hello.Lori , you've got a slight case of the jitters but I think you will be fine.It is just facing the unknown.You have nothing to fear but fear itself.Take care.
It looks like you've got some changes coming your way . I doubt that it will be as bad as you have visualized in your mind, and hopefully you will take the opportunity to learn that every person no matter what their age , needs to learn to get along with people and no body no matter who they are is any better then the next person. At your age I suspect that you won't be there to long. So, put on your lady manners and try to look at all the other girls , in the same boat as you are, as potential friends. Good luck!
Time to grow up and get unspoiled :)
You won't know what the roommate will be like until you get there. Best to make friends or live in hell for a long time if you don't.
You better get unspoiled in a hurry. You family might give you your way to shut you up but stranges don't have to.
It will be good for you to learn a new experience. Your father is taking a great step to prepare you with a great education that many of us will never have. Try to open your mind more and think about taking your focus off someone besides yourself. The situation will only be as bad as you make it.
Think of life as one long learning experience. We're here to meet new people, find out about them, etcetera. Whatever happens, you'll learn from it, right?
Don't worry, you'll be fine and we'll always be here for you.
Time to come to terms with reality...and if you want to be spoiled, you work for everything you have. You must need something else readjusted because having a rotten attitude can be fixed by working, taking away your freedoms, and your parents just giving you the cold shoulder. Boarding school doesn't always help, an individual can come out ten times worse.
...Erm? If you ever want to go away to college, you should get used to the idea of a roommate. Never know, could be the best years of your life.
lol tell the person in chagre that u have a very bad disease and connnot sleep wit anyone unless they want the whole skool to be closed down...
Well for starters get over yourself and stop being a self acclaimed spoiled brat - it's not cute. In the real world crying and screaming will most likely get you nowhere so just try being reasonable with this new roommate. Don't go into it thinking things will be a disaster - she may surprise you and become a great friend, or someone you can learn from - even if she is different. Be open. If you want to set some initial ground rules, talk to her when you move in together about the basics, but don't get all bossy-pants on her, it'll be her room too. Just try to enjoy the experience for what it is. Good luck.
just grow up because most people dont like people who are spoiled and your not at home any more you might say something that would fly at home but might get you punched in the face now so I would say dont worry about other people just mind your own business and adjust to your enviorment respect people the way you want to be respected unless your the fighting type and dont mind getting down
I will even be having a roommate. I have never even shared a room before except with my older sister when I was really little. How can a rather spoiled young lady, such as myself, acclimate to having a roommate? suppose she is not spoiled? suppose she is a thug? suppose she is a junkie? suppose she is a lesbian? How do come up with rules and stuff if we disagree about something? with my older brother and older sister I just cry and SCREAM to get my way (well some of the time), but these will be total strangers.
Thank you and good day,What advice do you have for a rather spoiled young lady as she enters a new phase of her life?
Ok, Lori, here's my advice from what I know about dorms:
~Bring stuff like a folding hamper and transportable shower caddy. That way, you can hide your stuff and store it in compact spaces.
~Buy a small safe for really valuable stuf so your roomate can't get her paws near it.
~Don't be the boss. Set rules together. And don't claim all the biggest and best stuff. Split things equally (well, as equally as possible!)
~More than likely, your roommate will not be spoiled. So, you have to accept that. ';Lindsay, I am spoiled. I hope to make it so that my spoiledness doesn't interfere with you.'; And don't throw an extreme number of temper tantrums because you will get in trouble.
~If she is a thug, be careful. You need real proof. And if you find a lead, report it to your Headmaster or person in charge of that. But do it ANONYMOUSLY! Trust me, you can't identify yourself.
~If she is a junkie, you also have to report her, but try to get good evidence, like people frequenting your room with large amounts of cash and leaving with bags, her being half out of it whenever, and other obvious signs. You know what to do.
~Lesbian. Hmm. Tight one. I guess you just have to know for certain, and then explain in a polite way. ';Lindsay, I understand that we have different sexual orientations. But let's not involve that in our friendship. You have yours and I have mine. So let's leave it at that. Ok?';
~Basically, just treat your roommate like you want her to treat you.
And most likely, honestly, you'll probably get some really nice girl who you'll get along with really well.
And sorry for naming her Lindsay, just making an example.
7 days. Aah! I've been counting down on my facebook the number of days (literally, my status is ';counting down to my trip (2 days) and till Lori leaves (7)';) and everyone wants to know who you are! I'm going to miss you, so we'll email and you'll give me your facebook name.
Good luck! I'm bringing my phone and computer with me, so I'll check for your question of the day every day!
Please do email.
In case this is it for us on here, goodbye Lori. Thank you and many good days.
Oh, and PS: I was reading the answers to Em's question about being bored. when I hit yours, I saw you say something about the girl who looked just like me, and how you thought it was me and all. So I started looking. That was FREAKY! She looked so much like me!! But we obviously have nothing in common because I'm not going to tell someone to do that.
Talk to you soon! Let me know if you need my email address again!
//\\//\\//\\//What advice do you have for a rather spoiled young lady as she enters a new phase of her life?
You will learn to deal with the real problems of life instead of having someone do it for you. I guarantee you that you will gain some self respect and even make some good friends. Quit worrying so much about your roommate, most people are pretty normal. Well, except for you.
Sometimes having a roommate can be a good thing. It teaches you how to interact and make friends. You can also learn some new tricks for getting your way with daddy. Sounds like the old tricks aren't working anymore. Good luck!
Lori, change and adaptation to those changes, is all part of growing up.Having a roommate is certainly going to be a challenge.Be prepared to share a space with a stranger who may or may not be of your liking.Be prepared to make compromises in order for this to work out.I'm sure there will be rules for students to follow while in residency.so some choices will be made for you.If you work at it, you may find your roommate will become a friend for life.Keep in mind it is the small things that irritate in a relationship (whether it is friends, acquaintances or couples).Keep bathroom spaces clean, do not use someone else's property without permission and don't play your country music too loud when your roommate is studying. (just kidding about the country musicLori I don't know what music you like.It basically comes down to respecting your roommates space and property and being willing to compromise.As for rules that will all get sorted out when you meet your roommate.Some things you will learn through trial and error.PLEASE try not let the visual of your roommate destroy a potential friendship before you even say hello.Lori , you've got a slight case of the jitters but I think you will be fine.It is just facing the unknown.You have nothing to fear but fear itself.Take care.
It looks like you've got some changes coming your way . I doubt that it will be as bad as you have visualized in your mind, and hopefully you will take the opportunity to learn that every person no matter what their age , needs to learn to get along with people and no body no matter who they are is any better then the next person. At your age I suspect that you won't be there to long. So, put on your lady manners and try to look at all the other girls , in the same boat as you are, as potential friends. Good luck!
Time to grow up and get unspoiled :)
You won't know what the roommate will be like until you get there. Best to make friends or live in hell for a long time if you don't.
You better get unspoiled in a hurry. You family might give you your way to shut you up but stranges don't have to.
It will be good for you to learn a new experience. Your father is taking a great step to prepare you with a great education that many of us will never have. Try to open your mind more and think about taking your focus off someone besides yourself. The situation will only be as bad as you make it.
Think of life as one long learning experience. We're here to meet new people, find out about them, etcetera. Whatever happens, you'll learn from it, right?
Don't worry, you'll be fine and we'll always be here for you.
Time to come to terms with reality...and if you want to be spoiled, you work for everything you have. You must need something else readjusted because having a rotten attitude can be fixed by working, taking away your freedoms, and your parents just giving you the cold shoulder. Boarding school doesn't always help, an individual can come out ten times worse.
...Erm? If you ever want to go away to college, you should get used to the idea of a roommate. Never know, could be the best years of your life.
lol tell the person in chagre that u have a very bad disease and connnot sleep wit anyone unless they want the whole skool to be closed down...
Well for starters get over yourself and stop being a self acclaimed spoiled brat - it's not cute. In the real world crying and screaming will most likely get you nowhere so just try being reasonable with this new roommate. Don't go into it thinking things will be a disaster - she may surprise you and become a great friend, or someone you can learn from - even if she is different. Be open. If you want to set some initial ground rules, talk to her when you move in together about the basics, but don't get all bossy-pants on her, it'll be her room too. Just try to enjoy the experience for what it is. Good luck.
just grow up because most people dont like people who are spoiled and your not at home any more you might say something that would fly at home but might get you punched in the face now so I would say dont worry about other people just mind your own business and adjust to your enviorment respect people the way you want to be respected unless your the fighting type and dont mind getting down
Me and my partner are looking to buy our first house together..what is the best advice you can give us?
We live in the north west of england and we are looking for a house..where can we get a good mortgage and what advice can you give us? Thanks :)Me and my partner are looking to buy our first house together..what is the best advice you can give us?
1) get a mortgage in priciple before you go looking - this may help you avoid gazumping.
2) don't rely on the survey the bank has done - do the cheap one for the bank and a full one independently.
3) make sure you can afford the mortgage, and have the necessary deposit.
4) when you put an offer in, offer less than the asking price and if this is accepted place a £50.00 deposit on acceptance and get the vendor to remove the property from the market.
5) ask your estate agent to recommend a solicitor and if you are not using one ring round to find out if they do special deals for house purchases. Once you have chosen one get the forms completed as quickly as possible so that you can move quicker.
6) If any problems that are fixable come up in the survey try to negotiate the price down or if the vendor won't budge get them to get the work done and for a guarantee to be given.
7)take out insurance on the property from the day the contracts are signed - and if possible take out mortgage repayment insurance and income replacement plans on one salary.
8) check your local papers - if a house has been on the market for awhile you may get it cheaper - we did this and knocked 14K off the asking price as they were soooooo desperate to sell.
9) Lie to the estate agents about how much you want to spend - I can guarantee that if you say £150K they will send you out to look at houses in areas you haven't specified and over your budget upto 175K probably......
10) negotiate estate agents fees if you pay them and contract length - we got ours reduced to 1% from 1.5% and from 12 weeks to 6.
One final thing - look at all types of home even if you hadn't considered it before and don't turn down viewings the estate agent may get stropy and stop sending you the best places that come up.Me and my partner are looking to buy our first house together..what is the best advice you can give us?
don't loose your job.for if you do,there's no mercy these days,you'll be thrown out in no time at all.
i think the best advise for you would be to look on the market dont go and jump right into it as you can make a mistake realy bad and very easy so vuiw alot off places and make sure that you and your partner want it when you find the right house you will no when you walk in but the first one will feel like that to hope that it helps
-If you can hang on a bit do so. Being a first time buyer you
will have the whip hand soon.
-The credit crunch means the housing market is seizing up.
-There are going to be house price reductions and a lot of
repossessions as mortgage renewal rates jump alarmingly.
-Mortgages will be more expensive and higher deposits
needed. Check with various building societies what they
would typically lend you so you know your price limit AND DON'T EXCEED IT!
-So keep saving, the bigger the deposit the better your
chance of getting a better deal. Can the bank of ';MUM %26amp;
DAD'; help at all?
-Don't be scared of putting in a low offer, some people will
be desperate. If not accepted there will be plenty more
soon!
-Remember the running costs are now high, Energy, Council
tax etc. have all jumped alarmingly, and will only increase in
future. Check out before jumping in on an offer!
-DO YOUR HOMEWORK and take off the rose tinted
glasses, you are going to be hard up whatever!
-Pay off any debts you already have, don't ignore them. Card
debts for example (typically 15%) are exorbitant, it is better
to use savings to get rid of them and pay them off rather than
earn 5% (taxable) in the bank.
if you have a house youre about to sell, wait later. selling is a horrible time. the stock market is down. I dont know about buying.
well according to the every thing said in the press the thing is to wait, because of this credit crunch, have at least 10% deposit for your mortgage.
Put down a 25% downpayment.
Try to put extra money towards your mortgage every year, and try in increase your payments whenever possible.
A few things, as your not married I suggest that you carefully look at what you want to happen if one of you dies, sorry if thats a bit morbid, but if you were to die
With joint ownership the other would inherit
With shared it would go to next of kin or whoever they willed it to.
Finance
It is essential to work out what you can afford, set yourself a budget and stick to it. With a huge range of mortgages, competition between lenders and low interest rates, many borrowers find themselves being offered vast sums of money. However, interest rates can rise and, as they do, so will your monthly repayments. You could lose your home if you fail to keep up with your mortgage repayments, so make sure they are affordable. As a rule, mortgage repayments should not exceed a third of your net monthly income.
It is best to have a mortgage arranged as soon as possible, so that you are in a stronger position when you find the property you wish to buy. Mortgage lenders can give offers 'in principle' - a tentative agreement to lend you a certain amount of money. This amount should of course match your budget.
Property search
Think about what sort of property would best suit your needs. Eliminating unsuitable properties at this stage will save you a lot of time and effort. It is helpful to distinguish between what you need and what you want, and be prepared to compromise over location and local amenities.
Majority of people looking to buy a house purchase their property through an estate agent. Register with agents in the area in which you are looking, and tell them exactly what you are looking for. Be keen, contactable and ready to view properties immediately as properties can be sold in under a week. Be aware that estate agents are paid by, and act in the interest of, the vendor.
You can search houses for sale and flats for sale on our database, and find out local information including schools, council tax, transport, crime rate, house prices and leisure facilities.
Viewing
Viewing a property is a crucial stage of buying a house. More often than not you will be able to tell within minutes of walking into a house whether you could live there. However, don't dismiss properties simply based on how they look or are decorated.
Be objective. It is important to see a property at least twice, preferably with a friend. Visit at different times of the day and week to build a picture of the neighbourhood. If you still like it, make an offer.
Making an offer
Obviously you don't want to pay more than you have to for a property but equally you don't want to insult the owners, or risk losing it, with a low offer. If things are selling fast and you feel the house is realistically priced. However, if the house has been on the market some time you could try offering a less.
If your first offer isn't accepted and you are prepared to go higher, do try again. There is likely to be a period of negotiation before a price is agreed. Once your offer is accepted, ensure that you get it confirmed in writing by the estate agent, or vendor, if it is a private sale.
Nothing is legally binding at this point - your offer is subject to contract and a survey. Either you or the seller can pull out of the sale right up until the point when contracts are exchanged.
Next steps
The faster you can complete on the sale, the less chance there is of being gazumped (where another buyer outbids you). You need to:
o Inform your mortgage lender that you have found the house to buy. They will need to arrange a valuation as soon as possible
o Instruct your solicitor or conveyancer. Provide them with the address of the house you wish to buy, details of the vendor's solicitor and the details of your mortgage lender
o Choose and commission a survey
o Ask the agent to change the For Sale sign to Sold
Surveys
Prices vary substantially, starting at £100 and rising up to £1,000, depending on the property type and which survey you select. Always use a surveyor registered by the Royal Institution of Chartered Surveyors (RICS).
Legal advice %26amp; conveyancing
Conveyancing is the legal term for the process by which property ownership is transferred. Property conveyance will be done by a solicitor or a licensed conveyancer (you can do it yourself, athough you have to be organised).
Finding a conveyancer
When appointing a solicitor or conveyancer it is generally best to be guided by a personal recommendation. Failing this, contact the Law Society, The National Solicitors' Network or the Council of Licensed Conveyancers to find registered members.
Your solicitor or conveyancer is there to protect you from any legal obstacle that may prevent you from taking full, free ownership of the house that you are buying.
Exchange of contracts
Your solicitor/conveyancer must receive your finalised mortgage offer and a draft contract from the seller's solicitor before he can proceed. Once both parties are happy with the contract, identical copies are signed. The copy signed by you will be sent to the vendor's solicitor with your deposit. Your solicitor will then receive the vendor's contract. The exchange of contracts has now occurred and the sale is legally binding.
Make sure you are happy with the contract. Read the fixtures and fittings list carefully so you know what's staying and what's going - that way you'll avoid any nasty surprises on moving-in day.
Completion
The date of completion is agreed at the exchange stage. It can be the same day or months later. On completion, the balance of the purchase price is paid to the vendor and the deeds of the house are handed to your solicitor who passes them to your mortgage lender as security for the loan. You are now the legal owner of the property
Make a will and take out insurance for building (mortgage comapny will insist this is in place at exchane of contracts.
Get contents insurance if you can afford it and life insurance for both of you if you are going to go into this as joint ownership.
All depends on your credit rating (even one missed payment on a credit card can have such an adverse effect these days that a lot of the best mortgage deals will be closed to you). As has been mentioned, you'll need at least a 10% deposit.
1) get a mortgage in priciple before you go looking - this may help you avoid gazumping.
2) don't rely on the survey the bank has done - do the cheap one for the bank and a full one independently.
3) make sure you can afford the mortgage, and have the necessary deposit.
4) when you put an offer in, offer less than the asking price and if this is accepted place a £50.00 deposit on acceptance and get the vendor to remove the property from the market.
5) ask your estate agent to recommend a solicitor and if you are not using one ring round to find out if they do special deals for house purchases. Once you have chosen one get the forms completed as quickly as possible so that you can move quicker.
6) If any problems that are fixable come up in the survey try to negotiate the price down or if the vendor won't budge get them to get the work done and for a guarantee to be given.
7)take out insurance on the property from the day the contracts are signed - and if possible take out mortgage repayment insurance and income replacement plans on one salary.
8) check your local papers - if a house has been on the market for awhile you may get it cheaper - we did this and knocked 14K off the asking price as they were soooooo desperate to sell.
9) Lie to the estate agents about how much you want to spend - I can guarantee that if you say £150K they will send you out to look at houses in areas you haven't specified and over your budget upto 175K probably......
10) negotiate estate agents fees if you pay them and contract length - we got ours reduced to 1% from 1.5% and from 12 weeks to 6.
One final thing - look at all types of home even if you hadn't considered it before and don't turn down viewings the estate agent may get stropy and stop sending you the best places that come up.Me and my partner are looking to buy our first house together..what is the best advice you can give us?
don't loose your job.for if you do,there's no mercy these days,you'll be thrown out in no time at all.
i think the best advise for you would be to look on the market dont go and jump right into it as you can make a mistake realy bad and very easy so vuiw alot off places and make sure that you and your partner want it when you find the right house you will no when you walk in but the first one will feel like that to hope that it helps
-If you can hang on a bit do so. Being a first time buyer you
will have the whip hand soon.
-The credit crunch means the housing market is seizing up.
-There are going to be house price reductions and a lot of
repossessions as mortgage renewal rates jump alarmingly.
-Mortgages will be more expensive and higher deposits
needed. Check with various building societies what they
would typically lend you so you know your price limit AND DON'T EXCEED IT!
-So keep saving, the bigger the deposit the better your
chance of getting a better deal. Can the bank of ';MUM %26amp;
DAD'; help at all?
-Don't be scared of putting in a low offer, some people will
be desperate. If not accepted there will be plenty more
soon!
-Remember the running costs are now high, Energy, Council
tax etc. have all jumped alarmingly, and will only increase in
future. Check out before jumping in on an offer!
-DO YOUR HOMEWORK and take off the rose tinted
glasses, you are going to be hard up whatever!
-Pay off any debts you already have, don't ignore them. Card
debts for example (typically 15%) are exorbitant, it is better
to use savings to get rid of them and pay them off rather than
earn 5% (taxable) in the bank.
if you have a house youre about to sell, wait later. selling is a horrible time. the stock market is down. I dont know about buying.
well according to the every thing said in the press the thing is to wait, because of this credit crunch, have at least 10% deposit for your mortgage.
Put down a 25% downpayment.
Try to put extra money towards your mortgage every year, and try in increase your payments whenever possible.
A few things, as your not married I suggest that you carefully look at what you want to happen if one of you dies, sorry if thats a bit morbid, but if you were to die
With joint ownership the other would inherit
With shared it would go to next of kin or whoever they willed it to.
Finance
It is essential to work out what you can afford, set yourself a budget and stick to it. With a huge range of mortgages, competition between lenders and low interest rates, many borrowers find themselves being offered vast sums of money. However, interest rates can rise and, as they do, so will your monthly repayments. You could lose your home if you fail to keep up with your mortgage repayments, so make sure they are affordable. As a rule, mortgage repayments should not exceed a third of your net monthly income.
It is best to have a mortgage arranged as soon as possible, so that you are in a stronger position when you find the property you wish to buy. Mortgage lenders can give offers 'in principle' - a tentative agreement to lend you a certain amount of money. This amount should of course match your budget.
Property search
Think about what sort of property would best suit your needs. Eliminating unsuitable properties at this stage will save you a lot of time and effort. It is helpful to distinguish between what you need and what you want, and be prepared to compromise over location and local amenities.
Majority of people looking to buy a house purchase their property through an estate agent. Register with agents in the area in which you are looking, and tell them exactly what you are looking for. Be keen, contactable and ready to view properties immediately as properties can be sold in under a week. Be aware that estate agents are paid by, and act in the interest of, the vendor.
You can search houses for sale and flats for sale on our database, and find out local information including schools, council tax, transport, crime rate, house prices and leisure facilities.
Viewing
Viewing a property is a crucial stage of buying a house. More often than not you will be able to tell within minutes of walking into a house whether you could live there. However, don't dismiss properties simply based on how they look or are decorated.
Be objective. It is important to see a property at least twice, preferably with a friend. Visit at different times of the day and week to build a picture of the neighbourhood. If you still like it, make an offer.
Making an offer
Obviously you don't want to pay more than you have to for a property but equally you don't want to insult the owners, or risk losing it, with a low offer. If things are selling fast and you feel the house is realistically priced. However, if the house has been on the market some time you could try offering a less.
If your first offer isn't accepted and you are prepared to go higher, do try again. There is likely to be a period of negotiation before a price is agreed. Once your offer is accepted, ensure that you get it confirmed in writing by the estate agent, or vendor, if it is a private sale.
Nothing is legally binding at this point - your offer is subject to contract and a survey. Either you or the seller can pull out of the sale right up until the point when contracts are exchanged.
Next steps
The faster you can complete on the sale, the less chance there is of being gazumped (where another buyer outbids you). You need to:
o Inform your mortgage lender that you have found the house to buy. They will need to arrange a valuation as soon as possible
o Instruct your solicitor or conveyancer. Provide them with the address of the house you wish to buy, details of the vendor's solicitor and the details of your mortgage lender
o Choose and commission a survey
o Ask the agent to change the For Sale sign to Sold
Surveys
Prices vary substantially, starting at £100 and rising up to £1,000, depending on the property type and which survey you select. Always use a surveyor registered by the Royal Institution of Chartered Surveyors (RICS).
Legal advice %26amp; conveyancing
Conveyancing is the legal term for the process by which property ownership is transferred. Property conveyance will be done by a solicitor or a licensed conveyancer (you can do it yourself, athough you have to be organised).
Finding a conveyancer
When appointing a solicitor or conveyancer it is generally best to be guided by a personal recommendation. Failing this, contact the Law Society, The National Solicitors' Network or the Council of Licensed Conveyancers to find registered members.
Your solicitor or conveyancer is there to protect you from any legal obstacle that may prevent you from taking full, free ownership of the house that you are buying.
Exchange of contracts
Your solicitor/conveyancer must receive your finalised mortgage offer and a draft contract from the seller's solicitor before he can proceed. Once both parties are happy with the contract, identical copies are signed. The copy signed by you will be sent to the vendor's solicitor with your deposit. Your solicitor will then receive the vendor's contract. The exchange of contracts has now occurred and the sale is legally binding.
Make sure you are happy with the contract. Read the fixtures and fittings list carefully so you know what's staying and what's going - that way you'll avoid any nasty surprises on moving-in day.
Completion
The date of completion is agreed at the exchange stage. It can be the same day or months later. On completion, the balance of the purchase price is paid to the vendor and the deeds of the house are handed to your solicitor who passes them to your mortgage lender as security for the loan. You are now the legal owner of the property
Make a will and take out insurance for building (mortgage comapny will insist this is in place at exchane of contracts.
Get contents insurance if you can afford it and life insurance for both of you if you are going to go into this as joint ownership.
All depends on your credit rating (even one missed payment on a credit card can have such an adverse effect these days that a lot of the best mortgage deals will be closed to you). As has been mentioned, you'll need at least a 10% deposit.
Need advice asap so please could you help?
I went for a job interview last week and when i went they said i should apply for the position higher so i said that i would love to and that they were going to close the date for applicants early this week. The problem i have i have been offered another job but i really want the other job but they have not let me know either way. Should i ring them up and ask if they have made a decesion either way and explain i have why i want to know or do i wait to hear from them? is it rude to ring them up and ask?Need advice asap so please could you help?
If I were you, i'd definitly give them a call!
I'd start off the conversation as follows, %26amp; have chosed 2 scenarios on the bottom as an end:::
';Hello this is so n so, and the reason for my call is to follow up with you regarding the interview we had last week and to inquire if you had made your decision yet.... If she hasn't decided yet.... I would make a point to say.... ';Alright, again I just wanted to follow up, and remind you once again that I'm extremely interested in this position.
At this point you'll need an ending... I gave you 2 scenarios, as follows::::
Scenario 1:
';I do want to let you know that due to the economy I have applied to other companies as well, but I want to make it very clear that this is my first choice. When you do make your final decision, could you please give me a call either way, I'd really appreciate it....(at this point he/she should say, we will be making our decision by ex. friday) ok then, it was a pleasure speaking with you, have a nice day.
OR
Scenario 2:
';I want to let you know that working for this company is my first very choice, %26amp; I think I would be a great asset to your company %26amp; i'd ask that when you do make your final decision, if you'd please inform me either way, I'd really appreciate it....(at this point he/she should say, we will be making our decision by ex. friday) ok ';so n so'; it was a pleasure speaking with you, %26amp; have a nice day.';
If I were you, I'd go w/ # 2, as they might think you're not that interested.... Hope this helps = )Need advice asap so please could you help?
not sure why you are in the 'trying to conceive' section but hey-ho :-)
I would ring them up and just ask them straight. It may even help to say that you have been offered another job.
If you explain that you don't want to accept the other job if there's a chance they are going to hire you for this position then it will show just how much you really want to work for them. It will also show that you are in demand and they will have to be quick because you are about to be snapped up.
I am job hunting as well so I wish you the best of luck.x
It was recommended in an article on yahoo yesterday that you wait a week before calling to inquire about a position you have interviewed for. But each place and employer have individual feelings on calling to check so its a do at your own risk type of thing. They usually don't leave people in the lurch once they have made up their minds and you should know soon after they decide.
not necessarily as it makes you look eager which gives you a better chance, but you could always apply for the new one and turn down the other.
If I were you, i'd definitly give them a call!
I'd start off the conversation as follows, %26amp; have chosed 2 scenarios on the bottom as an end:::
';Hello this is so n so, and the reason for my call is to follow up with you regarding the interview we had last week and to inquire if you had made your decision yet.... If she hasn't decided yet.... I would make a point to say.... ';Alright, again I just wanted to follow up, and remind you once again that I'm extremely interested in this position.
At this point you'll need an ending... I gave you 2 scenarios, as follows::::
Scenario 1:
';I do want to let you know that due to the economy I have applied to other companies as well, but I want to make it very clear that this is my first choice. When you do make your final decision, could you please give me a call either way, I'd really appreciate it....(at this point he/she should say, we will be making our decision by ex. friday) ok then, it was a pleasure speaking with you, have a nice day.
OR
Scenario 2:
';I want to let you know that working for this company is my first very choice, %26amp; I think I would be a great asset to your company %26amp; i'd ask that when you do make your final decision, if you'd please inform me either way, I'd really appreciate it....(at this point he/she should say, we will be making our decision by ex. friday) ok ';so n so'; it was a pleasure speaking with you, %26amp; have a nice day.';
If I were you, I'd go w/ # 2, as they might think you're not that interested.... Hope this helps = )Need advice asap so please could you help?
not sure why you are in the 'trying to conceive' section but hey-ho :-)
I would ring them up and just ask them straight. It may even help to say that you have been offered another job.
If you explain that you don't want to accept the other job if there's a chance they are going to hire you for this position then it will show just how much you really want to work for them. It will also show that you are in demand and they will have to be quick because you are about to be snapped up.
I am job hunting as well so I wish you the best of luck.x
It was recommended in an article on yahoo yesterday that you wait a week before calling to inquire about a position you have interviewed for. But each place and employer have individual feelings on calling to check so its a do at your own risk type of thing. They usually don't leave people in the lurch once they have made up their minds and you should know soon after they decide.
not necessarily as it makes you look eager which gives you a better chance, but you could always apply for the new one and turn down the other.
What advice would you give to someone who has won a lot of money?
spend wisely and turn your phone off!!
a person near me once won about 2.5 mil after taxes..and about 2 years later filed for bankruptcy.. tWhat advice would you give to someone who has won a lot of money?
* Keep the ticket safe - Roger Sockman(Florida Lottery spokesman) says people do funny things with their tickets, such as keeping it in a baggie in the freezer, in a sock under the mattress or most practical of all, in a safe deposit box.
* Think about current job - A winning ticket is a grand thing, but it doesn't really count until you've got the cash. It'd be best take some time off, without explaining why, if possible. They're going to be very busy becoming a millionaire and they'd probably want to quit. Sockman says most winners do, even though at their original interview about a quarter claim they'll keep working. He explains, ';They can't imagine how much money they've won. It's a life-changing event.';
* Find people they can can trust - The most important financial decision to make initially is who's going to be accountant, financial adviser and lawyer.Referral is the best way and if none of your friends or family can recommend a particular professional, it would be good to go to a major accounting firm, a major brokerage and a large law firm.Ask what they'll do for you.
* Arrange for a special account at the bank - You can't just deposit millions into your plain old checking account. And they don't really give you a paper check with a lot of zeroes. They give you the money by a wire transfer to your pre-arranged special account, says Sockman.
*Last bit of advice -Yep,they should definitely change their phone number because now that they're richer than their wildest dreams, everyone's going to want to reach out and touch them, and that will be a nightmare. So get a new unlisted telephone number ;)What advice would you give to someone who has won a lot of money?
Quit while you're ahead. The odds always favor the house in the long run. You can win gambles in the short run, but in the long run, the house ALWAYS wins.
Buy a Vineyard in California or a Ranch in Texas. Don't put it in a Bank or invest yet, wait until after the deppression.
change your phone number and talk to a financial adviser.
Put it away for school or buy a house just dont spend it all in one place
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a person near me once won about 2.5 mil after taxes..and about 2 years later filed for bankruptcy.. tWhat advice would you give to someone who has won a lot of money?
* Keep the ticket safe - Roger Sockman(Florida Lottery spokesman) says people do funny things with their tickets, such as keeping it in a baggie in the freezer, in a sock under the mattress or most practical of all, in a safe deposit box.
* Think about current job - A winning ticket is a grand thing, but it doesn't really count until you've got the cash. It'd be best take some time off, without explaining why, if possible. They're going to be very busy becoming a millionaire and they'd probably want to quit. Sockman says most winners do, even though at their original interview about a quarter claim they'll keep working. He explains, ';They can't imagine how much money they've won. It's a life-changing event.';
* Find people they can can trust - The most important financial decision to make initially is who's going to be accountant, financial adviser and lawyer.Referral is the best way and if none of your friends or family can recommend a particular professional, it would be good to go to a major accounting firm, a major brokerage and a large law firm.Ask what they'll do for you.
* Arrange for a special account at the bank - You can't just deposit millions into your plain old checking account. And they don't really give you a paper check with a lot of zeroes. They give you the money by a wire transfer to your pre-arranged special account, says Sockman.
*Last bit of advice -Yep,they should definitely change their phone number because now that they're richer than their wildest dreams, everyone's going to want to reach out and touch them, and that will be a nightmare. So get a new unlisted telephone number ;)What advice would you give to someone who has won a lot of money?
Quit while you're ahead. The odds always favor the house in the long run. You can win gambles in the short run, but in the long run, the house ALWAYS wins.
Buy a Vineyard in California or a Ranch in Texas. Don't put it in a Bank or invest yet, wait until after the deppression.
change your phone number and talk to a financial adviser.
Put it away for school or buy a house just dont spend it all in one place
....Give me some?
What if you leave a hospital against medical advice. Can you be denied service?
You can leave a hospital against medical advice. That is your prerogative. No, it can not be denied future services.What if you leave a hospital against medical advice. Can you be denied service?
Request for another Dr. Trust and good relationship with your Dr is impt
What if you leave a hospital against medical advice. Can you be denied service?
Nurses and doctors are professionals. Leaving a hospital against any advice to stay can lead you into trouble because these people specialize in keeping people alive.
No, you will never be denied health care unless you live in the states and don't have insurance (as far as I know, I am Canadian though so I don't know for sure).
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No, they have to help you. Still, I believe it can affect any insurance you have, if you leave, the insurance may not pay for you, if you have insurance. Anyway, I'm in the USA, but here they still help you and send you a bill. I believe, if I remember right, you can pay around ten dollars a month and it won't go against your credit. Don't quote me on this, though.
it麓s always better to ask for the consequences of leaving the hospital, cause it麓s even a chance to get ask , ';why you want to leave';; and to start a conversation----- a hospital has to take it to your file if you want to leave on your own(to tell your insurance). service won麓t be denied , but in europe them an thinking about a law .
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What if you leave a hospital against medical advice. Can you be denied service?
Nurses and doctors are professionals. Leaving a hospital against any advice to stay can lead you into trouble because these people specialize in keeping people alive.
No, you will never be denied health care unless you live in the states and don't have insurance (as far as I know, I am Canadian though so I don't know for sure).
-RN student
No, they have to help you. Still, I believe it can affect any insurance you have, if you leave, the insurance may not pay for you, if you have insurance. Anyway, I'm in the USA, but here they still help you and send you a bill. I believe, if I remember right, you can pay around ten dollars a month and it won't go against your credit. Don't quote me on this, though.
it麓s always better to ask for the consequences of leaving the hospital, cause it麓s even a chance to get ask , ';why you want to leave';; and to start a conversation----- a hospital has to take it to your file if you want to leave on your own(to tell your insurance). service won麓t be denied , but in europe them an thinking about a law .
Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
Dr. Spock didn't actually raise any children himself. His wife did. He more or less admitted shortly before his death that his advice was based on assumptions and not actual knowledge or practice.
Compare that with Dr. Sears who garnered most of his knowledge from not only his patients about what worked for them, but also he and his wife raising 8 kids. And he admits that right in the first pages of his books!
In general, pediatricians are not qualified to give parenting advice. They are medical doctors trained in injury and disease. They don't even have much knowledge about nutrition, yet they dispense it like they actually know something. My friend's daughter, a pediatrician, herself is very cautious about giving out parenting advice. Her children have mostly been raised by their grandmother because she and her husband are both doctors in their early careers.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
The best parenting advice comes from the parents who own the child, as no other 'expert' knows the child's mannerisms better than those who live with the child every day.
I like to read parenting books, magazines, stuff on-line, and asking friends and family for every kind of advice under the sun, but when it comes down to it, I take what I've learned from my team of experts and apply it in bits and pieces to my own child...then go from there.
You need to know what works best for your family.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
Some of his advice is timeless, and some is outdated. They have updated versions of his original publications which are somewhat useful. As with all advice, you have to weed through it and find what is helpful to you and disregard what you don't agree with.
Ya the person who convinced the ';stupid'; majority that spanking was bad. I don't think that would be considered ';good parenting advice';. Take a look around now for evidence of what I'm talking about.
I think his advice about daily care is pretty good - feeding, toys, sleeping, etc. But as far as discipline and childrearing practices, he's quite a bit out of date.
some good some outdated
Compare that with Dr. Sears who garnered most of his knowledge from not only his patients about what worked for them, but also he and his wife raising 8 kids. And he admits that right in the first pages of his books!
In general, pediatricians are not qualified to give parenting advice. They are medical doctors trained in injury and disease. They don't even have much knowledge about nutrition, yet they dispense it like they actually know something. My friend's daughter, a pediatrician, herself is very cautious about giving out parenting advice. Her children have mostly been raised by their grandmother because she and her husband are both doctors in their early careers.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
The best parenting advice comes from the parents who own the child, as no other 'expert' knows the child's mannerisms better than those who live with the child every day.
I like to read parenting books, magazines, stuff on-line, and asking friends and family for every kind of advice under the sun, but when it comes down to it, I take what I've learned from my team of experts and apply it in bits and pieces to my own child...then go from there.
You need to know what works best for your family.Do you think Dr. Spock has good parenting advice ?
Some of his advice is timeless, and some is outdated. They have updated versions of his original publications which are somewhat useful. As with all advice, you have to weed through it and find what is helpful to you and disregard what you don't agree with.
Ya the person who convinced the ';stupid'; majority that spanking was bad. I don't think that would be considered ';good parenting advice';. Take a look around now for evidence of what I'm talking about.
I think his advice about daily care is pretty good - feeding, toys, sleeping, etc. But as far as discipline and childrearing practices, he's quite a bit out of date.
some good some outdated
If someone has no structure to his/her life and asks you for advice, what advice would you give?
That is an excellent question. I suspect that most of the answers you get will be about going to school and getting a job, but I went through a similar thing and I suggest that you don't worry too much about it.
A person can learn and grow even in the situation you described. Just follow your passion (if you have any) and your life will find it's purpose. If you don't have any, I would suggest some Yoga to keep the mind clear... and just take it as it comes.
Don't worry, it doesn't sound to me like you are doing anything wrong.If someone has no structure to his/her life and asks you for advice, what advice would you give?
one way to have structure is to structure your day. Make plans and follow them.
sometimes we dont have structure in life, because we dont know what we want (so we could learn about ourselves more). Or because we cannot have what we want.If someone has no structure to his/her life and asks you for advice, what advice would you give?
What one sees as structure, may look like baggage from some other perspective.
Love and blessings Don
Based on your description its hard to tell if that person indeed has no structure. Some people enjoy having a lifestyle devoid of routine.
If it is as you suggest and this person is really a mess, I would tell them a story about someone else who was able to improve their financial situation by doing a) b) and c). In other words, you aren't lecturing him or her, you are just telling a story of how someone got their act together by being disciplined. This way you aren't nagging and instead giving them a subtle suggestion.
Don't try and build any pyramids: they definitely need structure.
I would tell them to take and RCIA course and become Catholic. It is the best thing I have ever done. The whole world makes so much more sense now.
ps I am not talking about the perception of Catholicism that you read about in books and newspapers, but the real thing as per the Vatican and the Catechism and the Bible.
As far as he is concerned, he has structure to his life. Obviously he is satisfied with freelancing, family, and friends.
You are asking for advice for him.
When he askes for advice then I would give it. Otherwise it is none of your buisness or anyone elses
If a person from the past ages were brought forward to the present, he would not have understood how a simple aeroplane could possibly take to the air, and fly. He may have understood that it is some machine made to go very fast on land. He may also have figured it out, upon the sight of its wings that it sure is made to fly somehow, but he would not have found out how. How, for instance, something can fly without flapping its wings - which a plane cannot - like a bird does?
This fact of the secret is in the design of the wings, in the simplest of all the features in the aircraft building. In fact that the top of each wing is curved and the bottom is flat, allowing the air over the wing of a moving plane to flow faster than the air passing under the wings. And the fast air over the wings causes a difference in pressure above and below, in turn producing lift. But this simple scientific fact would have been invisible to the most curious eyes of our friend from ancient times.
This is just like human mind, or human life. When idle or standing still, human mind does reveal its true potential. But when put in some purposeful use it reveals its hidden potentials. As the water in high altitude reservoirs keeps its potential energy stored, and until it is allowed to flow we never see the power its rapids.
If your friend is mobile, but aimless then he sure needs to have some purpose identified for his life. The example then could be that of a seed rolling on ground with gusts of air unable to take its hold in the soil. But until that seed keeps rolling its true characteristics will never be know, now even to himself. Just like water in a reservoir, and a plane standing upon a runway could not make any difference a person, like as a rolling stone that would gathers no moss. He will never realise what he might have found if he had tried just a little hard for one thing.
If a person has unstructured life,it means that he is aimless.Unless person has got an ';aim in life'; structured life is not possible.If there is aim,there may financial or physical bottlenecks to achieve the aim.One has to identify the factors resulting in an unplanned life.If sombody comes to me ,I will have to ask many questions to find out a solution.
The world work by cause and effect theory.Unless you identify the cause ,required effect cannot be created.For anything there will be a cause,even for un planned life.
to first get some structure in their life, unless the question was 'how'
routine, job security, less partying and boring things like that
provides a platform to do other things
Figure out what is important to them and set goals. Where do they want to be 20 years from now? Then sit down and make up a list of steps that will help them reach those goals.
And to remember we all fall into ruts, the important thing is learning how to get out of them and not make that rut ';home';.
Go to church and get involved in some of the works there, make new friends and work towards the same goals. Don't get discouraged when you fail or are hit with trials ~ let those make you stronger and wiser as you work to get back on your feet.
Life can be happy but we have to make the right choices. Don't just follow the crowd, do what is right for you, things that will make your life complete.
Be responsible for your actions and be ready to apologize when needed. Take pride in who you are and set a good example for others.
Be honest with others but especially be honest with yourself. You can't solve a problem if you don't admit to yourself what the problem really is so if you need to change your attitude, do it, don't make excuses or blame others.
Believe in yourself and keep your sense of humor because you will surely need it to get through rough times.
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I would advise that person to analyze themselves and determine what is most important in his/her life. Once they do that, put those things in order from most important to least. Priortize in that order and pray to God for organization and success.
i always say charity work... rspca or horse rescue or something on the web........hardly any people doing charity stuff drink and usually genuine...hope this helps mark b
Well that would depend why they have no structure. Is it due to illness, disability, unemploment etc. Cant really answer that question until I know those things.
Make a list of what they want from an ideal life - everything from the material things like where they want to live and what sort of car they want to the intrinsic things like how they want to feel about their job what sort of partner they want and work backwards from each goal setting smaller targets along the way.
i.e if they want a well paid salaried job. they may have to dtart by going back to school or getting a very low paid salaried job.
If they want to marry a certain type of person they may have to change the places they go to.
Just make sure everyone knows it is a long term process and you can't settle down over night!!
I'd say they are on the right track. Seriously. Everyone IS always exactly where they are supposed to be. It's the ';think you SHOULD be somewhere else'; or ';have structure to his/her life'; that is the problem. If this is you--You are Okay. If this is somebody else - Don't try to fix him.
i would tell her trust in yourself and go one without any limits and try to follow your heart but must of all trust inGod cause he will help u!
I do more or less the same thing, but successfully. I don't know why, but I work a lot less than everyone I know, and I make more money than all of them. If you still think settling down is the way to go though, get pregnant. Otherwise, I'm afraid that settling down is not in your nature.
A person can learn and grow even in the situation you described. Just follow your passion (if you have any) and your life will find it's purpose. If you don't have any, I would suggest some Yoga to keep the mind clear... and just take it as it comes.
Don't worry, it doesn't sound to me like you are doing anything wrong.If someone has no structure to his/her life and asks you for advice, what advice would you give?
one way to have structure is to structure your day. Make plans and follow them.
sometimes we dont have structure in life, because we dont know what we want (so we could learn about ourselves more). Or because we cannot have what we want.If someone has no structure to his/her life and asks you for advice, what advice would you give?
What one sees as structure, may look like baggage from some other perspective.
Love and blessings Don
Based on your description its hard to tell if that person indeed has no structure. Some people enjoy having a lifestyle devoid of routine.
If it is as you suggest and this person is really a mess, I would tell them a story about someone else who was able to improve their financial situation by doing a) b) and c). In other words, you aren't lecturing him or her, you are just telling a story of how someone got their act together by being disciplined. This way you aren't nagging and instead giving them a subtle suggestion.
Don't try and build any pyramids: they definitely need structure.
I would tell them to take and RCIA course and become Catholic. It is the best thing I have ever done. The whole world makes so much more sense now.
ps I am not talking about the perception of Catholicism that you read about in books and newspapers, but the real thing as per the Vatican and the Catechism and the Bible.
As far as he is concerned, he has structure to his life. Obviously he is satisfied with freelancing, family, and friends.
You are asking for advice for him.
When he askes for advice then I would give it. Otherwise it is none of your buisness or anyone elses
If a person from the past ages were brought forward to the present, he would not have understood how a simple aeroplane could possibly take to the air, and fly. He may have understood that it is some machine made to go very fast on land. He may also have figured it out, upon the sight of its wings that it sure is made to fly somehow, but he would not have found out how. How, for instance, something can fly without flapping its wings - which a plane cannot - like a bird does?
This fact of the secret is in the design of the wings, in the simplest of all the features in the aircraft building. In fact that the top of each wing is curved and the bottom is flat, allowing the air over the wing of a moving plane to flow faster than the air passing under the wings. And the fast air over the wings causes a difference in pressure above and below, in turn producing lift. But this simple scientific fact would have been invisible to the most curious eyes of our friend from ancient times.
This is just like human mind, or human life. When idle or standing still, human mind does reveal its true potential. But when put in some purposeful use it reveals its hidden potentials. As the water in high altitude reservoirs keeps its potential energy stored, and until it is allowed to flow we never see the power its rapids.
If your friend is mobile, but aimless then he sure needs to have some purpose identified for his life. The example then could be that of a seed rolling on ground with gusts of air unable to take its hold in the soil. But until that seed keeps rolling its true characteristics will never be know, now even to himself. Just like water in a reservoir, and a plane standing upon a runway could not make any difference a person, like as a rolling stone that would gathers no moss. He will never realise what he might have found if he had tried just a little hard for one thing.
If a person has unstructured life,it means that he is aimless.Unless person has got an ';aim in life'; structured life is not possible.If there is aim,there may financial or physical bottlenecks to achieve the aim.One has to identify the factors resulting in an unplanned life.If sombody comes to me ,I will have to ask many questions to find out a solution.
The world work by cause and effect theory.Unless you identify the cause ,required effect cannot be created.For anything there will be a cause,even for un planned life.
to first get some structure in their life, unless the question was 'how'
routine, job security, less partying and boring things like that
provides a platform to do other things
Figure out what is important to them and set goals. Where do they want to be 20 years from now? Then sit down and make up a list of steps that will help them reach those goals.
And to remember we all fall into ruts, the important thing is learning how to get out of them and not make that rut ';home';.
Go to church and get involved in some of the works there, make new friends and work towards the same goals. Don't get discouraged when you fail or are hit with trials ~ let those make you stronger and wiser as you work to get back on your feet.
Life can be happy but we have to make the right choices. Don't just follow the crowd, do what is right for you, things that will make your life complete.
Be responsible for your actions and be ready to apologize when needed. Take pride in who you are and set a good example for others.
Be honest with others but especially be honest with yourself. You can't solve a problem if you don't admit to yourself what the problem really is so if you need to change your attitude, do it, don't make excuses or blame others.
Believe in yourself and keep your sense of humor because you will surely need it to get through rough times.
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I would advise that person to analyze themselves and determine what is most important in his/her life. Once they do that, put those things in order from most important to least. Priortize in that order and pray to God for organization and success.
i always say charity work... rspca or horse rescue or something on the web........hardly any people doing charity stuff drink and usually genuine...hope this helps mark b
Well that would depend why they have no structure. Is it due to illness, disability, unemploment etc. Cant really answer that question until I know those things.
Make a list of what they want from an ideal life - everything from the material things like where they want to live and what sort of car they want to the intrinsic things like how they want to feel about their job what sort of partner they want and work backwards from each goal setting smaller targets along the way.
i.e if they want a well paid salaried job. they may have to dtart by going back to school or getting a very low paid salaried job.
If they want to marry a certain type of person they may have to change the places they go to.
Just make sure everyone knows it is a long term process and you can't settle down over night!!
I'd say they are on the right track. Seriously. Everyone IS always exactly where they are supposed to be. It's the ';think you SHOULD be somewhere else'; or ';have structure to his/her life'; that is the problem. If this is you--You are Okay. If this is somebody else - Don't try to fix him.
i would tell her trust in yourself and go one without any limits and try to follow your heart but must of all trust inGod cause he will help u!
I do more or less the same thing, but successfully. I don't know why, but I work a lot less than everyone I know, and I make more money than all of them. If you still think settling down is the way to go though, get pregnant. Otherwise, I'm afraid that settling down is not in your nature.
Who here has seen a psychiatrist, and what advice did they give you?
Please tell me.Who here has seen a psychiatrist, and what advice did they give you?
I've noticed that Psychic Cat lists herself as having the credentials of Adult %26amp; child psychology, and is very insightful and helpful in her answers. She has a 360 site as well. One of the questions she answered you might find helpful: ';How do you cope with emotional pain?'; Perhaps review some of her answers and see if any help you.
Psychiatrists usually deal with the medicine end of mental issues, and leave the advice giving and counseling to therapists, psychologist, and counselors, but occasionally you will find a psychiatrist who does counseling as well. My son has a psychiatrist who gives advise, but it's usually centered on the condition he's treating at the time, and the medicine related to it. His cognitive therapist will listen to his problems, and then make suggestions, or reassure him, but the one helping my son the most is him self. Because he still has to take in everything that is said and then figure out what makes sense and what works best. I noticed another question you asked, ';Why do parents treat their children鈥檚 depression like an inconvenience?'; which would make depression even worse not having a parents support. My kids get my support, but not their father's and the conflict really gets in the way of helping them. Go figure. It is a conundrum to be sure. The best advice I can give is keep trying to figure it out, as there is an answer for you, and while you are searching be sure that you eat right or you will feel worse. Bananas chase the blues away, and Vitamin C is a healer, and Vitamin B complex helps aid with stress, lack of calcium can make you depressed and make it hard to get to sleep, lack of water can also make you more depressed. Also, protein gives us our amino acids, which helps make tryptophan a mood stabilizer. So be sure to eat right or at least get a multivitamin high in the B family. Best of luck to you.Who here has seen a psychiatrist, and what advice did they give you?
be honest with them and tell them all that they need to know - everything is confidential and there is no need to worry that others may find out. Obviously you are there for a reason - make sure you make the most of it. If you don't feel comfortable with the person - find another that will. I've been there done that with many over the past 16 years.
i see one they put you on meds and just ask you how things is going.
I've noticed that Psychic Cat lists herself as having the credentials of Adult %26amp; child psychology, and is very insightful and helpful in her answers. She has a 360 site as well. One of the questions she answered you might find helpful: ';How do you cope with emotional pain?'; Perhaps review some of her answers and see if any help you.
Psychiatrists usually deal with the medicine end of mental issues, and leave the advice giving and counseling to therapists, psychologist, and counselors, but occasionally you will find a psychiatrist who does counseling as well. My son has a psychiatrist who gives advise, but it's usually centered on the condition he's treating at the time, and the medicine related to it. His cognitive therapist will listen to his problems, and then make suggestions, or reassure him, but the one helping my son the most is him self. Because he still has to take in everything that is said and then figure out what makes sense and what works best. I noticed another question you asked, ';Why do parents treat their children鈥檚 depression like an inconvenience?'; which would make depression even worse not having a parents support. My kids get my support, but not their father's and the conflict really gets in the way of helping them. Go figure. It is a conundrum to be sure. The best advice I can give is keep trying to figure it out, as there is an answer for you, and while you are searching be sure that you eat right or you will feel worse. Bananas chase the blues away, and Vitamin C is a healer, and Vitamin B complex helps aid with stress, lack of calcium can make you depressed and make it hard to get to sleep, lack of water can also make you more depressed. Also, protein gives us our amino acids, which helps make tryptophan a mood stabilizer. So be sure to eat right or at least get a multivitamin high in the B family. Best of luck to you.Who here has seen a psychiatrist, and what advice did they give you?
be honest with them and tell them all that they need to know - everything is confidential and there is no need to worry that others may find out. Obviously you are there for a reason - make sure you make the most of it. If you don't feel comfortable with the person - find another that will. I've been there done that with many over the past 16 years.
i see one they put you on meds and just ask you how things is going.
What one piece of advice were you given when you first became a parent? Who gave the advice?
I was told that I should not allow children to name the animals or pets or we would end up with something like a bunny named Apple (yes we did).What one piece of advice were you given when you first became a parent? Who gave the advice?
i was told to enjoy every moment with them because you'll never get that time back. also when they are screaming at nite and won't sleep, i was told to just keep reminding myself ';this wont' last forever'; it really helps.What one piece of advice were you given when you first became a parent? Who gave the advice?
My favorite was strangers in a store trying to touch my baby telling me I shouldn't let strangers touch my baby- HELLO! Who do you think you are Lady???? a stranger....fingers off.
A friend told me ';Don't listen to anyone but your Mother';. I thought that was good advice, since new moms are constantly bombarded with information and advice these days.
MY MOTHER IN LAW SAID NOT TO SLEEP WITH MY BABY..OR BREAST FEED THEM!
I PROVED HER WRONG TWICE! I SNUGGLED WITH MY BABIES AND BREASTFED THEM.
My mom told me to sleep when the baby sleeps, best advice she ever gave!
I have a fish named Boob once. He had really big buggy eyes. I think my kids would come up with really original names. I want a bunny named Apple. Anyways.
First piece of advice was to not worry about green poop. My best friend gave me this advice. She has two boys, and they both had green poop alot.
my dad said ok hunny from this day on it will b up too u to protect that child in all ways mostly as a infant its defenseless so its now all up too u extremely good words to live by bless him sandy
If want them to grow up too fast, they will regardless.
The advice that I remember most was this...';One day (and it's hard to imagine when your babies are newborn) this little one will grow up and move away from you. She'll have her own life and you'll have yours. Always keep a sense of who you are outside of being the loving mom of this precious baby.'; Advice given to me by my grandma - mom of 6 kids and very active in the community, church, schools, and her kids' lives.
';The best thing a dad can do for his kids is to love their mom. The best thing a mom can do for her kids is to love their dad.'; Based on words by Dr. James Dobson.
My mom told me to hold my baby as much as I wanted, which I still do. :)
Another bit of advice I read after she was born was that ';It's not the parents' job to keep the baby from crying.'; My daughter had colic and I felt so helpless. This advice really helped because I knew my baby's needs were met, she just had to cry sometimes.
To learn to sleep when the baby sleeps(from my sisters and friends).And to tell them how much you love them and that they are beautiful as often as possible(same people).
Don't get wrapped up in what all the books tell you sometimes you just need to go with what your gut tells you.
Don't feel guilty about taking some ';you'; time
I don't remember any advise actually. That's pretty harmless, but funny advice you got.
I was told to lead with the heart it would never fail. It was the best from my mom
The best advise is ';Sleep when the baby sleeps';. I realize its hard to not ';do chores'; when they are asleep. You feel so much better if you do this. Good luck!
i was told to enjoy every moment with them because you'll never get that time back. also when they are screaming at nite and won't sleep, i was told to just keep reminding myself ';this wont' last forever'; it really helps.What one piece of advice were you given when you first became a parent? Who gave the advice?
My favorite was strangers in a store trying to touch my baby telling me I shouldn't let strangers touch my baby- HELLO! Who do you think you are Lady???? a stranger....fingers off.
A friend told me ';Don't listen to anyone but your Mother';. I thought that was good advice, since new moms are constantly bombarded with information and advice these days.
MY MOTHER IN LAW SAID NOT TO SLEEP WITH MY BABY..OR BREAST FEED THEM!
I PROVED HER WRONG TWICE! I SNUGGLED WITH MY BABIES AND BREASTFED THEM.
My mom told me to sleep when the baby sleeps, best advice she ever gave!
I have a fish named Boob once. He had really big buggy eyes. I think my kids would come up with really original names. I want a bunny named Apple. Anyways.
First piece of advice was to not worry about green poop. My best friend gave me this advice. She has two boys, and they both had green poop alot.
my dad said ok hunny from this day on it will b up too u to protect that child in all ways mostly as a infant its defenseless so its now all up too u extremely good words to live by bless him sandy
If want them to grow up too fast, they will regardless.
The advice that I remember most was this...';One day (and it's hard to imagine when your babies are newborn) this little one will grow up and move away from you. She'll have her own life and you'll have yours. Always keep a sense of who you are outside of being the loving mom of this precious baby.'; Advice given to me by my grandma - mom of 6 kids and very active in the community, church, schools, and her kids' lives.
';The best thing a dad can do for his kids is to love their mom. The best thing a mom can do for her kids is to love their dad.'; Based on words by Dr. James Dobson.
My mom told me to hold my baby as much as I wanted, which I still do. :)
Another bit of advice I read after she was born was that ';It's not the parents' job to keep the baby from crying.'; My daughter had colic and I felt so helpless. This advice really helped because I knew my baby's needs were met, she just had to cry sometimes.
To learn to sleep when the baby sleeps(from my sisters and friends).And to tell them how much you love them and that they are beautiful as often as possible(same people).
Don't get wrapped up in what all the books tell you sometimes you just need to go with what your gut tells you.
Don't feel guilty about taking some ';you'; time
I don't remember any advise actually. That's pretty harmless, but funny advice you got.
I was told to lead with the heart it would never fail. It was the best from my mom
The best advise is ';Sleep when the baby sleeps';. I realize its hard to not ';do chores'; when they are asleep. You feel so much better if you do this. Good luck!
How do you style short hair? need advice before I go out!?
I have recently gotten my hair cut short in a style that comes a little above my chin in the front and gets chin length as it reaches the back. It is, in other words, in an angle. It also has lots of layers. Now I have no idea how to style it! I want to be able to just use the blow dryer and maybe straightener to make it straight in the shortest time possible and have it very under and very full. My hair is naturally curly. So help me out, please. I have a date tonight and am going to get ready in a couple of hours. :(
Also is there a way to curl short hair like mine to look stylish?
*sigh* I can't wait until it grows to medium length (hopefully by the summer, what do you say?)
Oh, well, thank you! :)How do you style short hair? need advice before I go out!?
Put some volumizing spray into your damp hair, blowdry. Straighten it but an the ends, flip the hair out. the layers should make for a really cute style.How do you style short hair? need advice before I go out!?
see what short haired celebrities are doing and copy it.
Naturally if you have a small hair curler, You can curl the layers seperately to give it the same layered look you had before or you can just straighten it and leave down in a style where it will flow w/ the wind!
Shave it all off sweetheart.
Start a trend.
I love my women clean shaven.
trim it.
CALM DOWN. IT'S NOT THAT SERIOUS ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS THINK OF IS DEMI MOORE BACK IN THE DAYS. GRAB A CURLING IRON SOME HAIRSPRAY AND GET STARTED...:)
gel, Joijel.Thats the view from the ocean
hair gel it
hair putty
i cnt c u but either leave it curly or straighten it. just leave it as that. sounds nice hair 2 me
You can go to a hair salon.I did it before when i had short hair.They have awsome styles for short medium and long hair.If you want to straighten it tell them
well you can do some layers and get it colored and feather it will look fabulouspores
Also is there a way to curl short hair like mine to look stylish?
*sigh* I can't wait until it grows to medium length (hopefully by the summer, what do you say?)
Oh, well, thank you! :)How do you style short hair? need advice before I go out!?
Put some volumizing spray into your damp hair, blowdry. Straighten it but an the ends, flip the hair out. the layers should make for a really cute style.How do you style short hair? need advice before I go out!?
see what short haired celebrities are doing and copy it.
Naturally if you have a small hair curler, You can curl the layers seperately to give it the same layered look you had before or you can just straighten it and leave down in a style where it will flow w/ the wind!
Shave it all off sweetheart.
Start a trend.
I love my women clean shaven.
trim it.
CALM DOWN. IT'S NOT THAT SERIOUS ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS THINK OF IS DEMI MOORE BACK IN THE DAYS. GRAB A CURLING IRON SOME HAIRSPRAY AND GET STARTED...:)
gel, Joijel.Thats the view from the ocean
hair gel it
hair putty
i cnt c u but either leave it curly or straighten it. just leave it as that. sounds nice hair 2 me
You can go to a hair salon.I did it before when i had short hair.They have awsome styles for short medium and long hair.If you want to straighten it tell them
well you can do some layers and get it colored and feather it will look fabulous
My baby's lying back2back, any info/advice on this you can share?
39 weeks yeserday, wasn't my normal midwife i seen so she didn't go into much detail but mentioned to me that my baby is lying back2back. Is this common? It is my first baby. any info/advice would be appreciated. cheersMy baby's lying back2back, any info/advice on this you can share?
This happened with my first born too.
It wasn't discovered until I had gone into labour, your baby could still turn.
I will admit it was very painful to begin with as baby's spine is rubbing against yours, but after some pain relief I was fine and she was born quite quickly (3 1/2hrs labour).
If you see a midwife again before the birth discuss it with them, but don't panic about it, you will be ok and so will baby.My baby's lying back2back, any info/advice on this you can share?
It's very common and most babies turn before labour starts.
Sitting up straight and spending time in an all-fours position each day can help your baby to turn. If this doesn't work, and your baby is back-to-back when labour starts, it's important to stay upright and mobile to help the baby turn. Most back-to-back babies will still turn, and you will be able to deliver normally.
My 1st was born back to back, my other two didn't. Good luck with the birth!
My first was born like this, face to pubes they call it. Imagine you are lying on your back, the baby should come out face down ie looking at the bed but face to pubes mean they come out facing upwards.
I ended up with a c/section after 36 hours. I got to pushing stage but he wouldn't come out so they whipped me in for the section. His little head was a bit squashed but he soon recovered.
Hopefully your baby will turn around the right way.
Not uncommon, especially if you are spending time in a reclined position (the effects of gravity). Remember baby will still move until the point of delivery.
Downside is that if baby is in this position during labour it is more difficult / painful as the angles aren't optimum. It is possible to encourage movement by going on all fours and rotating your hips!
My baby was inside me his back to my back when I went into labour(midwives called it face to pubes) basically it usually means a long slow labour,(mine was 18 hours,)because it can take ages for them to turn so don't rush to hospital,if you are in hospital they will be wanting to interfere if you are in labour a long time.so keep active , walk about, rest on all fours,use a birthing ball to support you the worse thing to do is lay on your back,many midwives keep you in bed to monitor you but its not necessary to be monitored all the time and it just makes labour slower.
HI. this is not too uncommon and the only issue it may cause during late pregnancy and labour is back pain for yourself. In some cases labour can be slow and long.
Usually, we advise women to lean forwards ie over a bean bag, back of sofa, kitchen units etc for 10 mins every now and then to encourage the baby to turn round. do this once/twice a day ish
However dont worry too much about it.
lots of babies are delivered from this position.
I had a back to back labour and yes it was very painful also i found that most of the pain from my contractions where in my back rather than my tummy! it dosen't always mean that it will be a long labour mine was only 5 hours and she was my first! good luck
there is still time for the baby to turn.my second baby was born like this it made the labour longer and i had back pain all through the labour.it is quite normal though so dont worry.
it is normal, it just means your babies back is facing your back..as long as the bubs head is down then you are fine...they usually turn the baby as its coming out anyways...
good luck and best wishes..
i was told at 36 weeks my baby was back to back, and i gave birth to my beautiful girl, he had turned on her own!
but i've also read that spending time on all fours does help
I don't know how this could be any problem.
I have never heard of that anyway.
Should have questioned her about it.
my baby was lying like this my midwife said sleep on your left side and th baby will move round worked for me good luck x x x
my first was like that his back on mine and i had all back labor
This happened with my first born too.
It wasn't discovered until I had gone into labour, your baby could still turn.
I will admit it was very painful to begin with as baby's spine is rubbing against yours, but after some pain relief I was fine and she was born quite quickly (3 1/2hrs labour).
If you see a midwife again before the birth discuss it with them, but don't panic about it, you will be ok and so will baby.My baby's lying back2back, any info/advice on this you can share?
It's very common and most babies turn before labour starts.
Sitting up straight and spending time in an all-fours position each day can help your baby to turn. If this doesn't work, and your baby is back-to-back when labour starts, it's important to stay upright and mobile to help the baby turn. Most back-to-back babies will still turn, and you will be able to deliver normally.
My 1st was born back to back, my other two didn't. Good luck with the birth!
My first was born like this, face to pubes they call it. Imagine you are lying on your back, the baby should come out face down ie looking at the bed but face to pubes mean they come out facing upwards.
I ended up with a c/section after 36 hours. I got to pushing stage but he wouldn't come out so they whipped me in for the section. His little head was a bit squashed but he soon recovered.
Hopefully your baby will turn around the right way.
Not uncommon, especially if you are spending time in a reclined position (the effects of gravity). Remember baby will still move until the point of delivery.
Downside is that if baby is in this position during labour it is more difficult / painful as the angles aren't optimum. It is possible to encourage movement by going on all fours and rotating your hips!
My baby was inside me his back to my back when I went into labour(midwives called it face to pubes) basically it usually means a long slow labour,(mine was 18 hours,)because it can take ages for them to turn so don't rush to hospital,if you are in hospital they will be wanting to interfere if you are in labour a long time.so keep active , walk about, rest on all fours,use a birthing ball to support you the worse thing to do is lay on your back,many midwives keep you in bed to monitor you but its not necessary to be monitored all the time and it just makes labour slower.
HI. this is not too uncommon and the only issue it may cause during late pregnancy and labour is back pain for yourself. In some cases labour can be slow and long.
Usually, we advise women to lean forwards ie over a bean bag, back of sofa, kitchen units etc for 10 mins every now and then to encourage the baby to turn round. do this once/twice a day ish
However dont worry too much about it.
lots of babies are delivered from this position.
I had a back to back labour and yes it was very painful also i found that most of the pain from my contractions where in my back rather than my tummy! it dosen't always mean that it will be a long labour mine was only 5 hours and she was my first! good luck
there is still time for the baby to turn.my second baby was born like this it made the labour longer and i had back pain all through the labour.it is quite normal though so dont worry.
it is normal, it just means your babies back is facing your back..as long as the bubs head is down then you are fine...they usually turn the baby as its coming out anyways...
good luck and best wishes..
i was told at 36 weeks my baby was back to back, and i gave birth to my beautiful girl, he had turned on her own!
but i've also read that spending time on all fours does help
I don't know how this could be any problem.
I have never heard of that anyway.
Should have questioned her about it.
my baby was lying like this my midwife said sleep on your left side and th baby will move round worked for me good luck x x x
my first was like that his back on mine and i had all back labor
As a senior in high school, what advice would you give to a freshman?
- Don't ask other classmates how to get to a certain room; they'll know you're a freshman and send you to a floor that doesn't exist. (Find a teacher.)
- Walk confidently; juniors and seniors like to ';initiate'; freshmen by making them do push-ups in the hall or carry their empty lunch trays to the dish area. (Or maybe this was just *my* high school.)
- Don't smart off to the upperclassmen.As a senior in high school, what advice would you give to a freshman?
Remember your locker combination. Don't be late for class.As a senior in high school, what advice would you give to a freshman?
Get decent grades.
Watch out for freshman girls. They like to cause trouble just for the drama of it.
I haven't been a senior for a long time, but I like the question. I guess I would say, most importantly, don't worry what other people think of you. Be yourself. High school is only 4 years and you will never have to deal with it again. Don't be afraid to try out for sports, or join a club, or audition for a school play. Do it all. Try it and see what you like. Don't be afraid to ask questions in class, chances are alt least 3 or 4 other people have the same question but are to afraid to ask. Don't be afraid to be social, ask a girl out, ask a boy out... whatever your preference. Go to the prom. Go to football games. Enjoy yourself because once its over you will never be able to go back. I only say this because I didn't take advantage of high school and sometimes I regret it.
Dont worry what people think of you. These are the best years of your life.
- Walk confidently; juniors and seniors like to ';initiate'; freshmen by making them do push-ups in the hall or carry their empty lunch trays to the dish area. (Or maybe this was just *my* high school.)
- Don't smart off to the upperclassmen.As a senior in high school, what advice would you give to a freshman?
Remember your locker combination. Don't be late for class.As a senior in high school, what advice would you give to a freshman?
Get decent grades.
Watch out for freshman girls. They like to cause trouble just for the drama of it.
I haven't been a senior for a long time, but I like the question. I guess I would say, most importantly, don't worry what other people think of you. Be yourself. High school is only 4 years and you will never have to deal with it again. Don't be afraid to try out for sports, or join a club, or audition for a school play. Do it all. Try it and see what you like. Don't be afraid to ask questions in class, chances are alt least 3 or 4 other people have the same question but are to afraid to ask. Don't be afraid to be social, ask a girl out, ask a boy out... whatever your preference. Go to the prom. Go to football games. Enjoy yourself because once its over you will never be able to go back. I only say this because I didn't take advantage of high school and sometimes I regret it.
Dont worry what people think of you. These are the best years of your life.
Do you think that people take our advice?
When people ask questions about breeding their dogs.......
do you think they take our advice when we tell them they shouldn't?
Or, do you think they breed them anyway?
Overall, when we answer questions for people, are we educating them? Or is it a waste of our time?
What do you think?Do you think that people take our advice?
Ugh. I think for the most part, it is a waste of finger-power. How many times have you seen people get up-in-arms when you bring up the ';s'; word?
And lets face it - if they're hear asking breeding questions, these aren't the sort of people who are going to invest in an educated answer, or an educated solution.
Had someone bring in a white (extremely agressive) intact pitty the other day - asked him if he was planning on spaying, to which he says, ';hellll no! I'm gunna get $2000 for white puppies! Who doesn't want a white puppy?'; I explained that, because his dog was white, didn't necessarily mean the puppies would be... (in my head, I'm screaming dear god get this dog and this idiot away from me, and good luck on your $2k per pup). He then starts ranting about how I cursed him.Do you think that people take our advice?
I doubt it seeing as they usually get attacked by several answerers. This would just put their back up and achieve nothing. I think it is better to try to educate by giving the facts - health risks for both the sire and dam, the need for genetic health testing to prevent diseases in the pups, the cost of breeding, the difficulty in finding a good forever home for all the pups and the fact that there is an existing over-population of dogs with not enough good forever homes for them all.
If these facts don't dissuade them then nothing will, especially abuse and nastiness.
I think they've already made up their minds and they do it anyway. I do believe we help people and they probably take away a few tips on how to potty train or crate train, at best they click on the links and follow the directions there. I know that if people have attached links in questions I've answered I'll go to them and I at least learn something, I've learned so much about dog food I could write a book, I've even educated friends at the Dog Park on what food they should be feeding and what the ingredients are of the foods they are currently feeding, so far I've gotten two people to switch brands to higher quality.
Even if we are wasting our time answering I'm learning something.
I have come to the conclusion that you cant fix stupid!
Nor can you tell someone that they are wrong when they feel they are right.
All i can do is hope that what I post will be considered and maybe thought about. If they actually listen then great but if they don't well then I only hope they get the dam good vet care and take very good care of the pups and find them very good homes!
Honestly, people are going to do what they want to do. Most people aren't going to take Y/A seriously. Oh and another thing that I see on here, is the many, many rude responses from people. Those responders are going to make the posters do the opposite of what is recommended. There is a such word as ';TACT';. Maybe some should look that up in the dictionary.
Probably they do not. They are not asking to really get good advice, they just want a few people to tell them what they are doing is OK. Once they have that, they are fine.
So, it is a waste of time, but it feels good to unleash on then once and a while!!!!
I would say about 99.9 percent of the people take the advice to heart.
The others....well....doubtful.
EDIT:
LOL, I meant that the other way around....99.9 percent of the people DO NOT take the advice......
Oops...Sorry :-)
Judging from the horrid amount of animal overpopulation...
I say they breed anyways...
Too many people just trying to make a buck and not knowing how to do it.
No one is going to listen to smart remarks from sarcastic people.
I think they breed them anyways.
My hope is that lurkers who are reading will be educated.
You cant change an idiots mind, sadly
do you think they take our advice when we tell them they shouldn't?
Or, do you think they breed them anyway?
Overall, when we answer questions for people, are we educating them? Or is it a waste of our time?
What do you think?Do you think that people take our advice?
Ugh. I think for the most part, it is a waste of finger-power. How many times have you seen people get up-in-arms when you bring up the ';s'; word?
And lets face it - if they're hear asking breeding questions, these aren't the sort of people who are going to invest in an educated answer, or an educated solution.
Had someone bring in a white (extremely agressive) intact pitty the other day - asked him if he was planning on spaying, to which he says, ';hellll no! I'm gunna get $2000 for white puppies! Who doesn't want a white puppy?'; I explained that, because his dog was white, didn't necessarily mean the puppies would be... (in my head, I'm screaming dear god get this dog and this idiot away from me, and good luck on your $2k per pup). He then starts ranting about how I cursed him.Do you think that people take our advice?
I doubt it seeing as they usually get attacked by several answerers. This would just put their back up and achieve nothing. I think it is better to try to educate by giving the facts - health risks for both the sire and dam, the need for genetic health testing to prevent diseases in the pups, the cost of breeding, the difficulty in finding a good forever home for all the pups and the fact that there is an existing over-population of dogs with not enough good forever homes for them all.
If these facts don't dissuade them then nothing will, especially abuse and nastiness.
I think they've already made up their minds and they do it anyway. I do believe we help people and they probably take away a few tips on how to potty train or crate train, at best they click on the links and follow the directions there. I know that if people have attached links in questions I've answered I'll go to them and I at least learn something, I've learned so much about dog food I could write a book, I've even educated friends at the Dog Park on what food they should be feeding and what the ingredients are of the foods they are currently feeding, so far I've gotten two people to switch brands to higher quality.
Even if we are wasting our time answering I'm learning something.
I have come to the conclusion that you cant fix stupid!
Nor can you tell someone that they are wrong when they feel they are right.
All i can do is hope that what I post will be considered and maybe thought about. If they actually listen then great but if they don't well then I only hope they get the dam good vet care and take very good care of the pups and find them very good homes!
Honestly, people are going to do what they want to do. Most people aren't going to take Y/A seriously. Oh and another thing that I see on here, is the many, many rude responses from people. Those responders are going to make the posters do the opposite of what is recommended. There is a such word as ';TACT';. Maybe some should look that up in the dictionary.
Probably they do not. They are not asking to really get good advice, they just want a few people to tell them what they are doing is OK. Once they have that, they are fine.
So, it is a waste of time, but it feels good to unleash on then once and a while!!!!
I would say about 99.9 percent of the people take the advice to heart.
The others....well....doubtful.
EDIT:
LOL, I meant that the other way around....99.9 percent of the people DO NOT take the advice......
Oops...Sorry :-)
Judging from the horrid amount of animal overpopulation...
I say they breed anyways...
Too many people just trying to make a buck and not knowing how to do it.
No one is going to listen to smart remarks from sarcastic people.
I think they breed them anyways.
My hope is that lurkers who are reading will be educated.
You cant change an idiots mind, sadly
What do you all think i should do in this situation? I just need some advice please... this is serious?
this guy and i have been going out and we really like each other and things are going so great, we have the same interests and views. but he's 21 and im 17, so my parents wont let me date him cuz im not 18. so we have to wait a year, its like forbidden love. how can i continue to see him without my parents finding out?
much much appreciated for all adviceWhat do you all think i should do in this situation? I just need some advice please... this is serious?
Your parents are right. They have your interest in mind and want you to be safe. It will be your boyfriend who gets in trouble, as in jail time, if you continue to see him. For the rest of his life, where ever he moves, he will have to register as a sex offender. There are laws in place for a reason, so wait the year and then be with him.
much much appreciated for all adviceWhat do you all think i should do in this situation? I just need some advice please... this is serious?
Your parents are right. They have your interest in mind and want you to be safe. It will be your boyfriend who gets in trouble, as in jail time, if you continue to see him. For the rest of his life, where ever he moves, he will have to register as a sex offender. There are laws in place for a reason, so wait the year and then be with him.
What do you do about a dream? please read if you can give any relationship advice?
My girlfriend had a dream, but ill start at the beginning. i told her a long time ago that one of her friends liked her more then a friend, and she didnt believe me. and a couple weeks later other people said the same thing and so she asked him and he said he didnt. about 10 minutes later she gets a call from him saying that he lied to her and he did. and about 2 weeks ago he comes up to me and tells me he deffinatley doesnt like her like that, and a couple days later my girlfried tells me they were talking and he told he he did still like her. so i have no trust in him what-so-ever. and then i hear that she told him in her own words, '; have made out with many guys in my dreams except they were never [me]..you a few times but never [me] o well i just wont tell him that...he would probably kill you if i told him that';. wft is that all about!!!
i know this is kinda long but hopefully somebody reads thisWhat do you do about a dream? please read if you can give any relationship advice?
Im not relationship expert but I do know that dreams are usually physcological things... if you think about something a lot or you're worried about something you dream about it.... if i were you i'd be worriedWhat do you do about a dream? please read if you can give any relationship advice?
It sounds like maybe your girlfriend is a little doubtful. It'd be one thing if she confided this in a friend (girl) but she confided it to a guy that likes her. You should talk to her about this.
She likes your friend and doesn't want to come right out and tell you. She doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Hint hint. Time to go girlfriend shopping.
i know this is kinda long but hopefully somebody reads thisWhat do you do about a dream? please read if you can give any relationship advice?
Im not relationship expert but I do know that dreams are usually physcological things... if you think about something a lot or you're worried about something you dream about it.... if i were you i'd be worriedWhat do you do about a dream? please read if you can give any relationship advice?
It sounds like maybe your girlfriend is a little doubtful. It'd be one thing if she confided this in a friend (girl) but she confided it to a guy that likes her. You should talk to her about this.
She likes your friend and doesn't want to come right out and tell you. She doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Hint hint. Time to go girlfriend shopping.
What do you think about my advice website?
Hello, I wanted to create an advice website...where people can feel free to ask the community for advice.
Advice related to relationships, family, life, etc.
I wanted to hear what you thought about my website..by the way I'm 16 years old.
Thanks!
http://Jamrie.comWhat do you think about my advice website?
I really like it
i signed up =)What do you think about my advice website?
No offense, and it may be a noble thought, but did you just wake from a coma?
I think Yahoo may have beaten you, as well as Google, and so many others.
Dallas
Beyond that, I have to assume at 16 your experiences are limited and advice to your age group might work, but I hardly think you can relate to a more mature audience.
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How to make a website like that? Are you using FrontPage? Or anything? Please tell me! I like your website!
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its good im no expert but in my opinion ill give it a 3 out of 5 ima sign up
it's awesome dude!
you got skills.
by the way, i signed up.pores
Advice related to relationships, family, life, etc.
I wanted to hear what you thought about my website..by the way I'm 16 years old.
Thanks!
http://Jamrie.comWhat do you think about my advice website?
I really like it
i signed up =)What do you think about my advice website?
No offense, and it may be a noble thought, but did you just wake from a coma?
I think Yahoo may have beaten you, as well as Google, and so many others.
Dallas
Beyond that, I have to assume at 16 your experiences are limited and advice to your age group might work, but I hardly think you can relate to a more mature audience.
I like it! Good!
How to make a website like that? Are you using FrontPage? Or anything? Please tell me! I like your website!
http://indonesia-spots.blogspot.com
http://audreysjarief.blogspot.com
My blogs...
That's awesome !
It looks really cool, and easy to understand(:
xoxo
its good im no expert but in my opinion ill give it a 3 out of 5 ima sign up
it's awesome dude!
you got skills.
by the way, i signed up.
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bored now............
WTF?....I was nice enough to click your link in my question, and this is what i get?
i am so lost?
ask a doctor lol
uhmm.. come again?
wat the hell did u just ask......................just wondering.
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Well,I was kind enough to click your link!
bored now............
WTF?....I was nice enough to click your link in my question, and this is what i get?
i am so lost?
ask a doctor lol
uhmm.. come again?
wat the hell did u just ask......................just wondering.
What do you think about my advice website?
Hello, I wanted to create an advice website...where people can feel free to ask the community for advice.
Advice related to relationships, family, life, etc.
I wanted to hear what you thought about my website..by the way I'm 16 years old.
Thanks!
http://Jamrie.comWhat do you think about my advice website?
smart
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that looks like a nice website:D esp ur only sixteen?! wow im speechless[;
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Nice!!!
wow are you series, hey!!
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it sucks..i jest, i never read it
nice!
Great idea, I wish you much success.
Advice related to relationships, family, life, etc.
I wanted to hear what you thought about my website..by the way I'm 16 years old.
Thanks!
http://Jamrie.comWhat do you think about my advice website?
smart
http://sg.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind鈥?/a>What do you think about my advice website?
that looks like a nice website:D esp ur only sixteen?! wow im speechless[;
good job[:
Nice!!!
wow are you series, hey!!
we have a future apple guy(women) on our hands
hey kudos, you just literally beat www.ask.com lol
Wow you're smart
Gud one
it sucks..i jest, i never read it
nice!
Great idea, I wish you much success.
Are you qualified to give sound advice on life?
And did you earn the qualifications the hard way - or by avoiding the pitfalls?Are you qualified to give sound advice on life?
I've been on this earth for 60 years and feel that I can give certain advice to those who follow behind. I earned my qualifications both the hard way and learning from others, therefore managing to avoid the pitfalls. I feel that it's better to learn from your mistakes as you won't want to repeat them. As the old saying goes, ';You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink';, it's the same with the youngsters. You can only show them what could happen, but it's ultimately their decision whether they follow your advice or not.Are you qualified to give sound advice on life?
Yes I would say I am qualified to give sound advice if someone asks me.
In the past I have given advice and if by any chance I do not have any connection with whatever the person has asked me then I tell them. I then give them advice on what I would do in the same situation, its all anyone can do.
Life is not a rehearsal for anything, this is the one and only chance you have so you have to learn as you go along. Then when someone asks for advice you can pass on any knowledge that you have.
Yes, I'm healthy, I live well(but not extravagantly)eat right(not over weight), avoid excesses, I'm a very good cook, seamstress %26amp; housekeeper, I have successful, daughters and sons. I have had very responsible employment with large corporations. I learned many things the hard way, tried to avoid pitfalls, didn't always succeed in avoiding them.
I would say my qualifications on giving advice is generally based on my own life experiences....I have learned the same way as everybody else, the hard way.
There are some mistakes in life that my daughters had to make for them to learn but there have been some that they did not have to go thru that I already have.....the important part is knowing the difference between the two.
Yes! I so am qualified to give advice on life by learning the hard way but I have discovered that no one listens, by no one I mean my kids of course, no matter how hard you try and warn them about stuff or advise them they do not listen, it got me quite down that no one listened to anything I had to say, then I got wise and stopped giving advice and now I just sit back and listen to them complaining ha ha
I give advice freely, qualified or not, I usually have some bit to contribute. Some is more helpful than others, but I feel compelled to offer whatever I think I know in hopes that someone else will benefit from my mistakes or bits of wisdom.
I feel very sound in the opinions that I share with friends......as they come from the heart.
Did I earn them the hard way? .....well life will judge me on that one.
I never considered avoiding a pitfall. Some of my best lessons were earned that way.
As a former teacher, I've been a mentor to a lot of people so I hope that I've given them some sound advice on life. I've not always made the best choices but I certainly learned from mistakes. I guess you could call me a survivor.
I call my wisdom a menu, served in a resturant called my way,
the special of the house is experience, the food is cooked to
perfection, all is left, is for one to order . . .
Yep. Full of it. I have lots of life experience and wisdom, so my friends say.
Some has been earned the hard way.
As the famous Forest Gumps says.....
';Life is like a box of chocolates';
And I agree....
I earned my qualifications by going through a lot of stuff. Living qualifies you for many things. I have not experienced all there is but I have hit some high points along the way.
No. Did it the hard way, my way - and avoided some.
No one will face the exact same circumstances I did.
So all I'm an expert at is living my own life. ..... If that.
I earned my qualification at the University of Life, UK.
Lived and survived through 53 years of successive British Governments trying to rip every penny out of my wallet.
Not really qualified. Just a snippet here and there which has usually been learned the hard way. I have avoided the odd pitfall but not very many and not nearly enough.
Of course! With age comes the benefit of experience .... which give you that added sense of intellectual achievement and dignity.
Yes. I feel I have earned the right to give sound advice, but only when asked. I graduated from the school of Hard Knocks.
I'm not much of a one for giving advice, unless i'm asked and then I'll only do it if I know the answers.
Yes I sure am Honey Child!!!
AL the sufferin and loss and problems, got me kickin here today, and Thank God For that!!!
Y'all ask great Questions!!!!!
Yes. Survival counts for something in this world.
No ,,i just try and Warn the Younger Generation,,Don't Make the Same Mistakes has i Did,,,
Yes...Oh...The Road well worn by the feet of others before me!! Not one thing came easy to me in life, except trouble!!! Mom said it was my middle name...
you bet your bottom dollar and i would say six or one and half dozen of the other!!!
No I still cock up on a daily basis
i think we can all learn off each other as we all have different life experiences..
Nope, I haven't done it all yet.
At age 77, I'd say so!
I've been on this earth for 60 years and feel that I can give certain advice to those who follow behind. I earned my qualifications both the hard way and learning from others, therefore managing to avoid the pitfalls. I feel that it's better to learn from your mistakes as you won't want to repeat them. As the old saying goes, ';You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink';, it's the same with the youngsters. You can only show them what could happen, but it's ultimately their decision whether they follow your advice or not.Are you qualified to give sound advice on life?
Yes I would say I am qualified to give sound advice if someone asks me.
In the past I have given advice and if by any chance I do not have any connection with whatever the person has asked me then I tell them. I then give them advice on what I would do in the same situation, its all anyone can do.
Life is not a rehearsal for anything, this is the one and only chance you have so you have to learn as you go along. Then when someone asks for advice you can pass on any knowledge that you have.
Yes, I'm healthy, I live well(but not extravagantly)eat right(not over weight), avoid excesses, I'm a very good cook, seamstress %26amp; housekeeper, I have successful, daughters and sons. I have had very responsible employment with large corporations. I learned many things the hard way, tried to avoid pitfalls, didn't always succeed in avoiding them.
I would say my qualifications on giving advice is generally based on my own life experiences....I have learned the same way as everybody else, the hard way.
There are some mistakes in life that my daughters had to make for them to learn but there have been some that they did not have to go thru that I already have.....the important part is knowing the difference between the two.
Yes! I so am qualified to give advice on life by learning the hard way but I have discovered that no one listens, by no one I mean my kids of course, no matter how hard you try and warn them about stuff or advise them they do not listen, it got me quite down that no one listened to anything I had to say, then I got wise and stopped giving advice and now I just sit back and listen to them complaining ha ha
I give advice freely, qualified or not, I usually have some bit to contribute. Some is more helpful than others, but I feel compelled to offer whatever I think I know in hopes that someone else will benefit from my mistakes or bits of wisdom.
I feel very sound in the opinions that I share with friends......as they come from the heart.
Did I earn them the hard way? .....well life will judge me on that one.
I never considered avoiding a pitfall. Some of my best lessons were earned that way.
As a former teacher, I've been a mentor to a lot of people so I hope that I've given them some sound advice on life. I've not always made the best choices but I certainly learned from mistakes. I guess you could call me a survivor.
I call my wisdom a menu, served in a resturant called my way,
the special of the house is experience, the food is cooked to
perfection, all is left, is for one to order . . .
Yep. Full of it. I have lots of life experience and wisdom, so my friends say.
Some has been earned the hard way.
As the famous Forest Gumps says.....
';Life is like a box of chocolates';
And I agree....
I earned my qualifications by going through a lot of stuff. Living qualifies you for many things. I have not experienced all there is but I have hit some high points along the way.
No. Did it the hard way, my way - and avoided some.
No one will face the exact same circumstances I did.
So all I'm an expert at is living my own life. ..... If that.
I earned my qualification at the University of Life, UK.
Lived and survived through 53 years of successive British Governments trying to rip every penny out of my wallet.
Not really qualified. Just a snippet here and there which has usually been learned the hard way. I have avoided the odd pitfall but not very many and not nearly enough.
Of course! With age comes the benefit of experience .... which give you that added sense of intellectual achievement and dignity.
Yes. I feel I have earned the right to give sound advice, but only when asked. I graduated from the school of Hard Knocks.
I'm not much of a one for giving advice, unless i'm asked and then I'll only do it if I know the answers.
Yes I sure am Honey Child!!!
AL the sufferin and loss and problems, got me kickin here today, and Thank God For that!!!
Y'all ask great Questions!!!!!
Yes. Survival counts for something in this world.
No ,,i just try and Warn the Younger Generation,,Don't Make the Same Mistakes has i Did,,,
Yes...Oh...The Road well worn by the feet of others before me!! Not one thing came easy to me in life, except trouble!!! Mom said it was my middle name...
you bet your bottom dollar and i would say six or one and half dozen of the other!!!
No I still cock up on a daily basis
i think we can all learn off each other as we all have different life experiences..
Nope, I haven't done it all yet.
At age 77, I'd say so!
Can anyone tell me what is a good stethoscopes to buy and some good advice when I buy one. Thank you?
I have a cheap one for our classroom (we homeschool) and it works just fine. What are you trying to do with it? We just needed a decent one to liten to the heart and for me to teach the kids about blood pressure. Here is a site where you can find lots of them:
http://www.stethoscopes.com/
Pattie
Family website: http://www.shwachman.50megs.comCan anyone tell me what is a good stethoscopes to buy and some good advice when I buy one. Thank you?
Litman by 3MCan anyone tell me what is a good stethoscopes to buy and some good advice when I buy one. Thank you?
3M Littmann. Depends on what level you are using it for - respiratory therapist, nurse, PA, physician...in general you want both the bell and diaphragm - ie the part you place on the patient's chest
http://www.stethoscopes.com/
Pattie
Family website: http://www.shwachman.50megs.comCan anyone tell me what is a good stethoscopes to buy and some good advice when I buy one. Thank you?
Litman by 3MCan anyone tell me what is a good stethoscopes to buy and some good advice when I buy one. Thank you?
3M Littmann. Depends on what level you are using it for - respiratory therapist, nurse, PA, physician...in general you want both the bell and diaphragm - ie the part you place on the patient's chest
Could you plez give me your advice?
could you please tell me what is the best way of doing a neat pony.i can never do a neat pony is there any tips you could give me of doing a neat pony.Could you plez give me your advice?
I use a gel spray when I do my children's hair into a ponytail This makes sure all the frizzy ends are nice and neatly smoothed downCould you plez give me your advice?
i always straighten my hair first! then simply tie my hair back quite tight into were i want my pony, also use bobby pins to make sure that ur hair stays in place in tricky places! xxx
I use a gel spray when I do my children's hair into a ponytail This makes sure all the frizzy ends are nice and neatly smoothed downCould you plez give me your advice?
i always straighten my hair first! then simply tie my hair back quite tight into were i want my pony, also use bobby pins to make sure that ur hair stays in place in tricky places! xxx
Whats the most important piece of advice you have received?
Did you use it and how did it change your life? If you didn't do you regret not taking it?Whats the most important piece of advice you have received?
My mom always says, '; When you're in a bad situation, imagine it like you're in a deep hole. Either you're going to do whatever it takes to get yourself out or you're just going to sit there and wallow in your misery!'; She always says that life is like a roller coaster- one minute it's up and the next it's down. She taught me to plant my feet firmly on the ground and do whatever it takes to pick myself up again! I take her advice all the time- and it has helped me to be strong even when I'm not. :)Whats the most important piece of advice you have received?
Live each day as it comes. Let the past stay in the past. This advise has helped more than just about anything else. It helps me to stay focused on what I do today and not to let my mind live in the past. Life is much easier to handle one day at a time.
dont judge a book by its cover. ive found this to be true on many occasions.
Let no man presume to give advice to others, that has not first given counsel to himself. - Seneca
Never leave hold of what you've got until you've got hold of something else. - Donald Hertzberg
The best advice I've ever been given from a very early age was,';never burn your bridges';.I have broken this cardinal rule a few times over the years and I'll tell you this,No truer saying exists.
Treat other people as you would like to be treated - which I take as meaning smile at others even if you are down, do your neighbour's shopping if he is sick, help people out with their problems, and hope that should you ever need it, the help will come your way.
Good luck
';You just be you and I'll just be me...'; a man once told me.
I was between relationships and just met this person. Him telling me this made me realize that I could give myself permission to tear down fearful walls and live life like I want to. He appreciated me for who I was and life has been a dream for me ever since!
We're now married and lots of jealous people out there who wish they had our kind of relationship based on the advice he gave me years ago.
'; keep your friends close and your eniemes even closer '; xpores
My mom always says, '; When you're in a bad situation, imagine it like you're in a deep hole. Either you're going to do whatever it takes to get yourself out or you're just going to sit there and wallow in your misery!'; She always says that life is like a roller coaster- one minute it's up and the next it's down. She taught me to plant my feet firmly on the ground and do whatever it takes to pick myself up again! I take her advice all the time- and it has helped me to be strong even when I'm not. :)Whats the most important piece of advice you have received?
Live each day as it comes. Let the past stay in the past. This advise has helped more than just about anything else. It helps me to stay focused on what I do today and not to let my mind live in the past. Life is much easier to handle one day at a time.
dont judge a book by its cover. ive found this to be true on many occasions.
Let no man presume to give advice to others, that has not first given counsel to himself. - Seneca
Never leave hold of what you've got until you've got hold of something else. - Donald Hertzberg
The best advice I've ever been given from a very early age was,';never burn your bridges';.I have broken this cardinal rule a few times over the years and I'll tell you this,No truer saying exists.
Treat other people as you would like to be treated - which I take as meaning smile at others even if you are down, do your neighbour's shopping if he is sick, help people out with their problems, and hope that should you ever need it, the help will come your way.
Good luck
';You just be you and I'll just be me...'; a man once told me.
I was between relationships and just met this person. Him telling me this made me realize that I could give myself permission to tear down fearful walls and live life like I want to. He appreciated me for who I was and life has been a dream for me ever since!
We're now married and lots of jealous people out there who wish they had our kind of relationship based on the advice he gave me years ago.
'; keep your friends close and your eniemes even closer '; x
What's the best piece of advice you ever received?
Was it your mom, dad, aunt, or uncle, mentor? What bit of wisdom stands out to you?What's the best piece of advice you ever received?
whenever i ask my husband for tips, he will say ';don't eat yellow snow'; ;(What's the best piece of advice you ever received?
errrmmm...i'm in ontario, canada ;p
From Grandpa- ';Know how deep the water is before you jump headfirst!
my mom...';when someone tells you they are a bad person, believe them.';
My mom gave me the best advise ever. She told me that everything will be ok and it was. Just hearing those words made me feel much better.
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Never had any advice I took too seriously for any length of time. All that ';TOO PASSES, thank goodness!';
if you play with it too much it will fall off,
my mother when I was 3
Ha! I proved her wrong though...
whenever i ask my husband for tips, he will say ';don't eat yellow snow'; ;(What's the best piece of advice you ever received?
errrmmm...i'm in ontario, canada ;p
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From Grandpa- ';Know how deep the water is before you jump headfirst!
my mom...';when someone tells you they are a bad person, believe them.';
My mom gave me the best advise ever. She told me that everything will be ok and it was. Just hearing those words made me feel much better.
hugs
Never had any advice I took too seriously for any length of time. All that ';TOO PASSES, thank goodness!';
if you play with it too much it will fall off,
my mother when I was 3
Ha! I proved her wrong though...
What's the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
Honestly?...
Probably, ';Look before you cross';
it will save your life one day .What's the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
Don't marry a man that isn't nice to his mother.
Don't marry a man that can't hold down a job.
Don't marry a man that doesn't put you first.What's the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
';Advice, Like Youth, Probably Just Wasted On The Young'; by Mary Schmich
http://256.com/gray/quotes/schmich.html
Be happy.
Never, ever use drugs!
hmm.
dont trust boys cause they only want one thing
sex
%26amp; its true !
Probably, ';Look before you cross';
it will save your life one day .What's the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
Don't marry a man that isn't nice to his mother.
Don't marry a man that can't hold down a job.
Don't marry a man that doesn't put you first.What's the best piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
';Advice, Like Youth, Probably Just Wasted On The Young'; by Mary Schmich
http://256.com/gray/quotes/schmich.html
Be happy.
Never, ever use drugs!
hmm.
dont trust boys cause they only want one thing
sex
%26amp; its true !
I know its nothing to do wit this catagory but you all have better advice and im gay aswell and the song is gf?
i really wanna write a romantic song i can put music 2 it myself as i play guitar an am i dj so music is no problem, just the lyric i cant seem to get right i have loads of ideas and thought just cant seem to put them in to a song please help!! i wanna play it 4 my girlfriend!!I know its nothing to do wit this catagory but you all have better advice and im gay aswell and the song is gf?
http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/j/jason鈥?/a>
Beautiful mess - Jason mrazI know its nothing to do wit this catagory but you all have better advice and im gay aswell and the song is gf?
please use spell check, thank you.
Jot down some of our feelings and make it into a poem.
Play around with it until it works with music.
good luck
As I said before learn English first.
http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/j/jason鈥?/a>
Beautiful mess - Jason mrazI know its nothing to do wit this catagory but you all have better advice and im gay aswell and the song is gf?
please use spell check, thank you.
Jot down some of our feelings and make it into a poem.
Play around with it until it works with music.
good luck
As I said before learn English first.
What do you think about my advice website?
Hello, I wanted to create an advice website...where people can feel free to ask the community for advice.
Advice related to relationships, family, life, etc.
I wanted to hear what you thought about my website..by the way I'm 16 years old.
Thanks!
http://Jamrie.comWhat do you think about my advice website?
Looks good but I must say being 16 maybe you should limit it to teens only...for safety sake as well as to prevent any problems.What do you think about my advice website?
answer man, that is one very excellent idea and website. i can see it become popular. i would use it if i had any questions left about relationships but after 34 yrs of marriage, my questions are all answered! keep up the good work.
I really like how it is set up and am very impressed that at 16 you could create something so sophisticated.
Advertising a Yahoo answers clone on Yahoo answers. Ahah that made my day.
its pretty good but its just like this website, but anyways i think you did a good job...
it's pretty good, actually, lol
That is really nice.
You're a great person.
Smart, too, if you could create something like that!
haven't been there only advice i need is how to not look for advice on the net
Nice idea,
this is great for a 16 year old but are the questions from you or other people?
It may be good for kids,but.........You're too young to give me advice
good idea
It's very good.
Go for it
wow i wonder can you show me how to make oneeeee thats nice i think you should become a web designer
So it's kind of like Yahoo! Answers, but it's not really for JUST questions. I like it. =]
its cool
i like it
it's aigggght.
cool, I'll favorite it.
Advice related to relationships, family, life, etc.
I wanted to hear what you thought about my website..by the way I'm 16 years old.
Thanks!
http://Jamrie.comWhat do you think about my advice website?
Looks good but I must say being 16 maybe you should limit it to teens only...for safety sake as well as to prevent any problems.What do you think about my advice website?
answer man, that is one very excellent idea and website. i can see it become popular. i would use it if i had any questions left about relationships but after 34 yrs of marriage, my questions are all answered! keep up the good work.
I really like how it is set up and am very impressed that at 16 you could create something so sophisticated.
Advertising a Yahoo answers clone on Yahoo answers. Ahah that made my day.
its pretty good but its just like this website, but anyways i think you did a good job...
it's pretty good, actually, lol
That is really nice.
You're a great person.
Smart, too, if you could create something like that!
haven't been there only advice i need is how to not look for advice on the net
Nice idea,
this is great for a 16 year old but are the questions from you or other people?
It may be good for kids,but.........You're too young to give me advice
good idea
It's very good.
Go for it
wow i wonder can you show me how to make oneeeee thats nice i think you should become a web designer
So it's kind of like Yahoo! Answers, but it's not really for JUST questions. I like it. =]
its cool
i like it
it's aigggght.
cool, I'll favorite it.
Christians can you give me some advice?
I am so tired of my sister. She starts arguments with me. calls me names and everything. what should I do? should I just laugh it off or walk away?Christians can you give me some advice?
Just love her, be kind, go out of your way.
If nothing else, she will be so confused, she'll panic.Christians can you give me some advice?
Two monks were washing their bowls in the river when they noticed a scorpion that was drowning. One monk immediately scooped it up and set it upon the bank. In the process he was stung. He went back to washing his bowl and again the scorpion fell in. The monk saved the scorpion and was again stung. The other monk asked him, ';Friend, why do you continue to save the scorpion when you know it's nature is to sting?';
';Because,'; the monk replied, ';to save it is my nature.';
Walk away and ignore her remarks.
Jesus forgave those that hung him on the cross...he asked God the Father to forgive them
Just try to ignore it or tell her how you feel. As long as you forgive her, then you will be fine in God's Eyes. God Bless!!
She's trying to provoke you to anger so laugh it off and ignore her because she does it for attention.
God bless.
ask her directly if you are doing something that bothers her. then ask her why she wants to start a fight. A gentle answer turns away anger; so when you deal with her dont come off as self righteous. ask her if she wants to talk it over with your parents; tell her you dont want to live like this and give her some options; like be nice or leave me alone...if she doesnt stop bring it up with your folks butr try to work it out with her first. ask her what you can do that would make things better.. good luck..some rivalry is normal with siblings I hope it works out.
make jokes about her
That's what sisters do, but deep down inside we still love them.
How old are you? if you're young and living with her you'll find that when you grow up and move out your relationship will be much better.
Turn the other cheek?
Walk away it states in the bible not to tolerate people like that. You dont have to listen to the name callings and still love her once she gets rid of her tantrums
Walk away. If she knows you will always respond she will keep doing it. If someone never rises to the bait then it just gets boring. Pretend you don't hear.
I do hope it works. x
I can give you all kinds of advice from an older person's point of view- and it is not easy to actually DO it, when one is young.
I DO remember what it was like as a teenager- fighting with my older sister. I had to share a tiny bedroom with her and we were such opposites in High School. She was very neat and clean-I was total lazy slob.
She didn't like my music- she was very good in school- I was the goof-off. We fought like cats and dogs.
Being young- I had no wisdom, I was very rude myself, and didn't want to give in to any sort of compromise.
Looking back- I could have made an effort- she would have responded. After we ';grew up'; we were very loving sisters and friends, but teen years can be rough.
You CAN try sitting down with her one day and saying- ';you know I just hate these fights- I think sisters should be friends and allies against the rest of the world- what can we do to change this friction??
You have to be willing to let her vent if she starts doing so. Maybe she is just mean... maybe she has some legitimate beefs.
Best to try. Sisters can be THE best friends you have, it is worth trying.
ONE of the things that helped our sisterly relationship was the fact that I did move out of our bedroom! LOL I took my stuff down to our then unfinished basement- I thought that was better than sharing a room. And it was. I didn't care if I lived with the spiders it was better to have my own space whereever it may have been.
I don't know how old you two are so it is hard to say if she will respond maturely or not. If she is always fighting and arguing there is a reason for it. Either you are irritating her or she is being unreasonable. You need to determine which of these factors is in play then address it. TALK with her. Clear lines of communication can not be beat for solving problems. Once you two speak honestly and openly you can figure out a way to address the issue with love and respect.
If I were in your shoes (and I have been) I would pray hard and ask for guidance in finding and using the mildness of the Spirit, Love, and kind words that will help to figure out the problem and solve it. You might be surprised how praying can help open up communication.
Blessings
no you should kick her right in the rectum
Just love her, be kind, go out of your way.
If nothing else, she will be so confused, she'll panic.Christians can you give me some advice?
Two monks were washing their bowls in the river when they noticed a scorpion that was drowning. One monk immediately scooped it up and set it upon the bank. In the process he was stung. He went back to washing his bowl and again the scorpion fell in. The monk saved the scorpion and was again stung. The other monk asked him, ';Friend, why do you continue to save the scorpion when you know it's nature is to sting?';
';Because,'; the monk replied, ';to save it is my nature.';
Walk away and ignore her remarks.
Jesus forgave those that hung him on the cross...he asked God the Father to forgive them
Just try to ignore it or tell her how you feel. As long as you forgive her, then you will be fine in God's Eyes. God Bless!!
She's trying to provoke you to anger so laugh it off and ignore her because she does it for attention.
God bless.
ask her directly if you are doing something that bothers her. then ask her why she wants to start a fight. A gentle answer turns away anger; so when you deal with her dont come off as self righteous. ask her if she wants to talk it over with your parents; tell her you dont want to live like this and give her some options; like be nice or leave me alone...if she doesnt stop bring it up with your folks butr try to work it out with her first. ask her what you can do that would make things better.. good luck..some rivalry is normal with siblings I hope it works out.
make jokes about her
That's what sisters do, but deep down inside we still love them.
How old are you? if you're young and living with her you'll find that when you grow up and move out your relationship will be much better.
Turn the other cheek?
Walk away it states in the bible not to tolerate people like that. You dont have to listen to the name callings and still love her once she gets rid of her tantrums
Walk away. If she knows you will always respond she will keep doing it. If someone never rises to the bait then it just gets boring. Pretend you don't hear.
I do hope it works. x
I can give you all kinds of advice from an older person's point of view- and it is not easy to actually DO it, when one is young.
I DO remember what it was like as a teenager- fighting with my older sister. I had to share a tiny bedroom with her and we were such opposites in High School. She was very neat and clean-I was total lazy slob.
She didn't like my music- she was very good in school- I was the goof-off. We fought like cats and dogs.
Being young- I had no wisdom, I was very rude myself, and didn't want to give in to any sort of compromise.
Looking back- I could have made an effort- she would have responded. After we ';grew up'; we were very loving sisters and friends, but teen years can be rough.
You CAN try sitting down with her one day and saying- ';you know I just hate these fights- I think sisters should be friends and allies against the rest of the world- what can we do to change this friction??
You have to be willing to let her vent if she starts doing so. Maybe she is just mean... maybe she has some legitimate beefs.
Best to try. Sisters can be THE best friends you have, it is worth trying.
ONE of the things that helped our sisterly relationship was the fact that I did move out of our bedroom! LOL I took my stuff down to our then unfinished basement- I thought that was better than sharing a room. And it was. I didn't care if I lived with the spiders it was better to have my own space whereever it may have been.
I don't know how old you two are so it is hard to say if she will respond maturely or not. If she is always fighting and arguing there is a reason for it. Either you are irritating her or she is being unreasonable. You need to determine which of these factors is in play then address it. TALK with her. Clear lines of communication can not be beat for solving problems. Once you two speak honestly and openly you can figure out a way to address the issue with love and respect.
If I were in your shoes (and I have been) I would pray hard and ask for guidance in finding and using the mildness of the Spirit, Love, and kind words that will help to figure out the problem and solve it. You might be surprised how praying can help open up communication.
Blessings
no you should kick her right in the rectum
What are some diet secrets? and advice! What do you all do to shed a few kilos?
Just wanting to know some dieting secrets to shed a few kilos! cheersWhat are some diet secrets? and advice! What do you all do to shed a few kilos?
Here's my secret to losing weight- Don't go on a diet! If you want to lose weight it should be part of your lifestyle. Exercise before or after work, take up a new sport and invite your friends along e.g dancing. Listen to upbeat music when you are exercising, make sure you are eating healthy, lots of fresh fruits and vegetables. Read lot's of health books and educate yourself on the best way to live a health life.Best of luck! xoWhat are some diet secrets? and advice! What do you all do to shed a few kilos?
From http://fatburner-diet.blogspot.com/2009/02/10-weight-loss-myths-to-waste-your-time.html
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Losing weight – and most if it should be fat – is important for people who are overweight, in terms of body mass index (BMI) and waist circumference. It is also important for athletes, bodybuilders and recreational body shapers who want to get rid of those last few pounds.
With weight loss, it seems as if everyone has an angle, but most strategies are useless or insignificant.
What works for weight loss is to burn more calories in physical activity than you consume in food calories -- an excess of energy used compared to energy consumed. If you doubt this in any way, consider what happens to people on starvation diets in prison or who’ve been lost at sea or in the wilderness for many weeks or months with insufficient food. The body eventually uses all stored forms of energy, including muscle, to support itself for as long as possible. Then you die, mostly in a skeletal state.
But during weight loss (intentional or not), the body does try to prevent this happening — and this is a survival mechanism developed over several millions years of human evolution — by lowering its energy-burning rate in response to low-calorie consumption. The human body makes changes in all sorts of ways to adjust to changing circumstances. This is called “homeostasis.”
Variations exist in how much weight individuals can lose in response to diet and exercise, but in the end, changing energy balance is the only major thing that matters. I make this point because trivial approaches such as drinking green tea or eating chili peppers or drinking coffee (caffeine) or taking some herbal supplement or other may have a very small effect on fat loss that could easily be negated by the body adjusting to that challenge over time by altering its metabolism. Consistent deficits in energy intake and expenditure over months and years is what you need to concentrate on.
Here are 10 weight loss approaches that could waste your time:
1. Eat According to Your Metabolic Type
The origin of this idea in the modern diet business can be traced to The Metabolic Typing Diet. The general idea dates from the 1970s and perhaps even before that.
The premise is that we all have a “metabolic type” — an individual metabolism that can be manipulated by dietary choices. According to this, we all fall into three metabolic types. And how do you know your metabolic type? Usually, the practitioners of metabolic type diets ask you a range of questions about your body shape, natural food choices, energy levels and many other things. Some may charge for blood or urine tests.
No doubt, you will soon be offered a genetic test that is supposed to identify your best nutrition and training habits based on your genes, which, presumably, create your metabolic type. Already similar services are being promoted to health and fitness enthusiasts — for a fee of course.
There is no evidence that metabolic types have any validity for weight management or fitness training, including weight training. Our genes can influence how our bodies works, but genes are not faultless determinants of physical function — or behavior for that matter. Genes interact with the environment, in this case, with food and physical activity. The idea that we have a metabolic type that reacts rigidly to diet in a certain way because of a genetic component is false, or at least only partly true. Food and exercise are just as likely to change the way these genes function as genes are to demand certain foods for health, perhaps even more likely.
2. Don’t Eat Carbohydrates Because They Turn to Fat
This one still persists, even after all the debunking that has been done. It is a persistent myth of misplaced emphasis that derives from the low-carb diet movement. First, some carbohydrates can be converted to fat and stored, but this is only significant if you overeat. Fructose in corn syrup and cane sugar is more likely to do this than glucose from starches, such as grains.
Second, even if some carbohydrate turns to fat, it is not permanently enshrined in some fat larder on your hips, legs, belly, arms and butt until the end of history. Mostly, you can burn it off just like you can burn off dietary fat that is eaten and stored. What matters is the total calories you consume and the energy calories you expend.
3. Eat Foods that Boost Metabolism or Decrease Appetite
While it is true that chemical substances, such as amphetamines, boost metabolism so that you burn more calories and this helps you with weight loss, amphetamines are powerful substances and few naturally occurring herbs or extracts have this type of effect. Or, if they do, products, such as ephedra, may not be safe for casual consumption. The FDA says ephedra is unsafe.
Other plant-derived substances touted as useful weight loss supplements are caffeine, capsaicin (chili), gre
The biggest secret is to stay consistent and don't give up. So many people give in and mess up the diet then just quit because they fell off the wagon. It's best to just start right back where you were and keep going.
Eating less and exercising more is the best way. All the quick weight loss products are a temporary fix you will gain the weight back just as fast as you lost it.
Lose it at a moderate pace with a good program of eating and exercise then it will stay gone no gain and lose cycle that will go on for years or maybe forever.
oh my - there are a gazillion diet tricks! Here are a few of my favorite sites on it for you to browse thru - have fun :)
the best diet you will ever have is to eat healthy and proportionate and work out. losing weight (keeping it off) and being healthy is a lifestyle change not a fad diet pill or drink.
i found the information here
don't eat past six pm.
I know how you can lose 20 pounds in less than a month. Read my free report.
http://superfastfatlossnow.blogspot.com/pores
Here's my secret to losing weight- Don't go on a diet! If you want to lose weight it should be part of your lifestyle. Exercise before or after work, take up a new sport and invite your friends along e.g dancing. Listen to upbeat music when you are exercising, make sure you are eating healthy, lots of fresh fruits and vegetables. Read lot's of health books and educate yourself on the best way to live a health life.Best of luck! xoWhat are some diet secrets? and advice! What do you all do to shed a few kilos?
From http://fatburner-diet.blogspot.com/2009/02/10-weight-loss-myths-to-waste-your-time.html
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Losing weight – and most if it should be fat – is important for people who are overweight, in terms of body mass index (BMI) and waist circumference. It is also important for athletes, bodybuilders and recreational body shapers who want to get rid of those last few pounds.
With weight loss, it seems as if everyone has an angle, but most strategies are useless or insignificant.
What works for weight loss is to burn more calories in physical activity than you consume in food calories -- an excess of energy used compared to energy consumed. If you doubt this in any way, consider what happens to people on starvation diets in prison or who’ve been lost at sea or in the wilderness for many weeks or months with insufficient food. The body eventually uses all stored forms of energy, including muscle, to support itself for as long as possible. Then you die, mostly in a skeletal state.
But during weight loss (intentional or not), the body does try to prevent this happening — and this is a survival mechanism developed over several millions years of human evolution — by lowering its energy-burning rate in response to low-calorie consumption. The human body makes changes in all sorts of ways to adjust to changing circumstances. This is called “homeostasis.”
Variations exist in how much weight individuals can lose in response to diet and exercise, but in the end, changing energy balance is the only major thing that matters. I make this point because trivial approaches such as drinking green tea or eating chili peppers or drinking coffee (caffeine) or taking some herbal supplement or other may have a very small effect on fat loss that could easily be negated by the body adjusting to that challenge over time by altering its metabolism. Consistent deficits in energy intake and expenditure over months and years is what you need to concentrate on.
Here are 10 weight loss approaches that could waste your time:
1. Eat According to Your Metabolic Type
The origin of this idea in the modern diet business can be traced to The Metabolic Typing Diet. The general idea dates from the 1970s and perhaps even before that.
The premise is that we all have a “metabolic type” — an individual metabolism that can be manipulated by dietary choices. According to this, we all fall into three metabolic types. And how do you know your metabolic type? Usually, the practitioners of metabolic type diets ask you a range of questions about your body shape, natural food choices, energy levels and many other things. Some may charge for blood or urine tests.
No doubt, you will soon be offered a genetic test that is supposed to identify your best nutrition and training habits based on your genes, which, presumably, create your metabolic type. Already similar services are being promoted to health and fitness enthusiasts — for a fee of course.
There is no evidence that metabolic types have any validity for weight management or fitness training, including weight training. Our genes can influence how our bodies works, but genes are not faultless determinants of physical function — or behavior for that matter. Genes interact with the environment, in this case, with food and physical activity. The idea that we have a metabolic type that reacts rigidly to diet in a certain way because of a genetic component is false, or at least only partly true. Food and exercise are just as likely to change the way these genes function as genes are to demand certain foods for health, perhaps even more likely.
2. Don’t Eat Carbohydrates Because They Turn to Fat
This one still persists, even after all the debunking that has been done. It is a persistent myth of misplaced emphasis that derives from the low-carb diet movement. First, some carbohydrates can be converted to fat and stored, but this is only significant if you overeat. Fructose in corn syrup and cane sugar is more likely to do this than glucose from starches, such as grains.
Second, even if some carbohydrate turns to fat, it is not permanently enshrined in some fat larder on your hips, legs, belly, arms and butt until the end of history. Mostly, you can burn it off just like you can burn off dietary fat that is eaten and stored. What matters is the total calories you consume and the energy calories you expend.
3. Eat Foods that Boost Metabolism or Decrease Appetite
While it is true that chemical substances, such as amphetamines, boost metabolism so that you burn more calories and this helps you with weight loss, amphetamines are powerful substances and few naturally occurring herbs or extracts have this type of effect. Or, if they do, products, such as ephedra, may not be safe for casual consumption. The FDA says ephedra is unsafe.
Other plant-derived substances touted as useful weight loss supplements are caffeine, capsaicin (chili), gre
The biggest secret is to stay consistent and don't give up. So many people give in and mess up the diet then just quit because they fell off the wagon. It's best to just start right back where you were and keep going.
Eating less and exercising more is the best way. All the quick weight loss products are a temporary fix you will gain the weight back just as fast as you lost it.
Lose it at a moderate pace with a good program of eating and exercise then it will stay gone no gain and lose cycle that will go on for years or maybe forever.
oh my - there are a gazillion diet tricks! Here are a few of my favorite sites on it for you to browse thru - have fun :)
the best diet you will ever have is to eat healthy and proportionate and work out. losing weight (keeping it off) and being healthy is a lifestyle change not a fad diet pill or drink.
i found the information here
don't eat past six pm.
I know how you can lose 20 pounds in less than a month. Read my free report.
http://superfastfatlossnow.blogspot.com/
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