How can you get a girl without following the advice of pick up gurus like Neil Strauss?

I have read some of those seduction books, including the game, and have seen some of them do their routines and coach some guys on youtube. I simply do not want to do that stuff. I am mainly referring to what they call ';negs'; like when they tell women things like ';Your nose wiggles when you talk'; or its painful talking to them!? The way they talk and act seems almost robotic as well. It all just seems too fake and immature to me. Is there any other way to win over a woman?How can you get a girl without following the advice of pick up gurus like Neil Strauss?
Just do your own thing, be yourself and if all else fails ,flattery flattery.It sometimes works .