What is her issues? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?

My host mom is in her 50s. She is currently a teacher in Baltimore City Public School. I have been known her for 5 years. She has been struggling with her teaching jobs in the areas for all those years.





She always tells people that her bosses dislike her because she is an African American and has her Master's from John Hopkins University. She believes her bosses are racists or intimidated by her education. the unfortunate truth is every years she has been asked not to come back to work AKA she gets fire.





I know for facts that she is a kind and loving lady. Althought I tend to think she is not the best worker because she likes to talk and does not get her jobs done as fast as others. She is now distress and depressed because she thinks her bosses treat her unfair.





What do you think? What is her issues? How can she improve herself?





P.S. I am only 22. She always talks to me about her problems. I feel obligate to give her my thoughts.





Thank you so much for your kindnessWhat is her issues? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
I assume your worried about your host mom because you feel indebted to her. These are her problems not yours. When you blame the world for your problems you are not going to improve yourself. Look inside first. You cannot change other people only yourself. Listen to her. That's fine. You are in a different growth period than she is. Your going for your masters. That's all you need right now.What is her issues? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?
Why does she believe all her bosses are racist?? Maybe she might be a bit racist you never know. I have found that people who tend to scream racism tend to be themselves racist as they pick up on any little item that the other people do and if they dont like it then they say they are racist. We all have to get on in this world and maybe if people didnt talk about racism it wouldnt be such a bad place. When I was a little girl I never knew such a word existed!!
It is a shame that this lady feels so low about herself and so good of you to care.


She has many issues low self esteem, low self worth and lack of confidence is just a start.


She is in her 50's not only is this a difficult age due to hormone changes but she was also born in an era of great racial tensions.


I would imagine that many years ago when she was a younger women or even child she come across many predigest against her however she has worked hard and proved herself by having the career she now has which must have been hard in her time.


She carries the past around like a mentor and lives in that past thinking that everyone is racist hence her attitude. She is not being sacked for her colour she is being sacked for her negative attitudes.


We live in a multicultured society today and i would imagine your University is multicultural so would not carry these pregidist and be horrified and do something about it if there was.


She needs her confidence, self esteem and self worth boosting up is there a way she can develope something at Univeristy that embrases and teaches things from her culture?You have said she is a great talker so she would love to talk about her culture and share it with others.


You could ask her about her youth and did she face any difficulties becoming a teacher.


The key is to find the key and unlock it IE What started off this bad feeling that people do not like her because of her ethnic background.


I know not a brillant answer but it may be a start along with other answers you may be able to help her to be honest the only person who can help her is herself in the end.
She is so lucky to have you to try to understand. Her reality is what she believes whether it is true or not. America is a nation built on unfair treatment of many of its citizens. Racial and gender issues have always been legitimate concerns and discrimination still exists. She has grown up and been required to overcome these issues as well as more personal ones. All of these things encompass the personality and development of this woman. Also she is going through a period of change in her life where her physical roles are ending. It is difficult to transcend. Understand and sympathize.
She is a very lucky lady to have you caring for her so.





I think sometimes there is a self fulfilling prophecy, in that we believe something therefore everything that happens feeds into that belief and makes us believe it more.





For instance if we used an example that was not about racism and I said that Ifelt all the bosses I ever had we intimidated by me because I am taller tha them, each time they gave me feedback I didnt like I could say it was becasue I was taller than tem and they didnt like it. This would make me believe it more and more.





I am not saying what she says is not true, I am saying it is her belief that it is true.





She may have some self esteem issues, given her clear intelligence she will be able to overcome them if she is able to admit she may be the manufacturer of her own discomfort in at least some part. Its hard but we all do this belief thing at some point in our lives.


I wish her and you well.
well i think she should work in a teaching school where her bosses are black or work in a religious school coz they believe in fairness to all cultures and race
she has low self esteem and needs to quit worrying..
you have to be honest with her, if your not she will continue to make the same mistakes and get herself in trouble. tell her exactly what you wrote, and that you will help her make changes to improve at work but she needs to change her attitude and want to help herself before you can do anything. when she realises how much you care it will make her more determined to make changes and it might be the right push she needs to get her back on her feet. it sounds like she just has some insecurities, talk them over with her it might make her feel better to get them out in the open. i hope it all works out well.
Tell her to flatter rhe boss. Always works and doesn't hurt her feelings.
First of all you used the words,'obligated to give her my thoughts', and that is too bad, because you sound like a caring person who is getting too caught up in someone elses problems who apparently doesn't mind dumping them on you. No matter how nice a person is, nor how much we care about them, they don't have the right to always dump their problems on us. The main issue with your friend as I see it, is that she is still playing the blame game. No matter a persons age, the 'blame game' is a sure hallmark of immaturity. Until she stops blaming others for her problems, and starts looking at herself nothing will change for her, no matter what you say.
Well, teaching is tough for starters; and if you are the Jr faculty member and enrollment drops; they would have to let you go.





That being said, maybe she isn't as effective of a teacher as she thinks she is. (not that I would say that to her)





Perhaps if she looked for a position outside BCPS in the neighboring county or in a private school. Maybe she tries a different grade or subject; something to enliven things a bit.





She might try changing her curriculum up; take a few education courses from UMBC.





I seriously doubt they are intimidated by a MA Hopkins; most principals I've met in Fairfax county (and I have met alot) have Ph.Ds and alot of teachers have MAs.